I pretend to be the protagonist of my own life, not that imposed by others, I blame myself for what I do and what I say, not what others understand, define me my values, I love myself whole, without cracks, with every imperfect corner, with every madness appreciated, with every mistake made and with every shadow that I embrace from time to time to heal my scars.
Self-atceptation is a complex and confusing task that we write with invisible ink on our to-do list, such as whoever writes their list of good intentions earlier this year. Thus, almost without realizing it, comes a day when we look in the mirror and feel a sudden and inexplicable thinness. How can mirrors really show such a sharp, intact, and perfect picture of ourselves when we feel that way?Inside?
? Is the price of greatness the responsibility?. -Winston Churchill-
Something particularly curious that usually happens to people who have not worked on their self-ception or the integration of all those personal and emotional dimensions that define who we are is that they usually blame others for their misfortune, their discomfort. others, often adopting a defeatist attitude.
For example: if I don’t find a good partner it’s because currently no one believes in commitment, if I don’t pass the exams it’s because the teacher doesn’t like me, if I don’t have good friends, it’s because everyone is fake and ungrateful, the bad thing I’m wrong today is that I wasn’t well oriented, if I’m not sure about myself it’s because it’s a family matter , because in our country we are all the same?
This type of attitude is like that of the one who turns on the fan and begins to express its frustrations to everyone around it, so few exercises can be healthier, cathartic and therapeutic than taking the first step and declaring ourselves protagonists of our own life. responsible for who we are and what we do.
Self-government responsible for who you are, what you do and think, definitely marks a before and after. Personal responsibility means above all not blaming others for their own misfortune. It also means discovering different ways to achieve balance and well-being, despite everything. negative situations around us.
At this point, more than one person is likely to wonder: does this mean that it is possible to be happy despite the circumstances around us?What if my emotional relationship is stormy and unstable?
Well, the answer to these questions is simple: being responsible for yourself is understanding that there are things we cannot control, such as a certain physical illness. In this case, you have to accept the facts; what makes the difference is our ATTITUDE.
On the other hand, the person responsible who sees himself as the protagonist of his own life and not as an actor in the theater of his existence understands that to be happy we have to make decisions, therefore, everything that disturbs, everything that affects our life. self-esteem, which restricts identities or offers us a substitute for love, it is better to set aside and remember the commitment made at some point to ourselves. The commitment that reminds us that “we came into this world to be happy, not to waste time in what takes away the joy of living. “
Dr. William Ury is a renowned anthropologist who has earned a remarkable reputation for his work as a mediator and promoter of personal growth, through books such as “The Road to YES”. For him, to be responsible for oneself lies in two Areas: the first is to know how to take care of oneself, to be able to understand the relationship between our actions and its consequences, the second is to respect the commitments we make to others.
“We are the memories we have and the responsibility we assume. Without memory do we not exist and without responsibility do we not deserve to exist?. – José Saramago-
Dr. Ury also suggests that to achieve this magical balance, we must be able to say “YES?”We must validate ourselves as people, to perceive ourselves as capable beings, people worthy of achieving all that we desire. Here are some suggestions from Dr. William Ury.
Finally, it is also interesting to realize that our day to day is not a competitive scenario, no law tells us that some have to win and others are forced to lose, to live is to celebrate life, to give and receive, to live in harmony, to be responsible for ourselves, our successes and our mistakes, without blaming the people around us for our frustrations.
Put these simple tips into practice and take control of your own life, be the protagonist of your existence.