Why some? Former? Back to our lives only when we’re all right?There are relationships based on constant comings and goings, more than a loving and rewarding relationship. The same person who wasn’t there when we need him most suddenly comes back when we recover. The thing is, many times these people don’t come back for us, but to look for a little more ego.
The ego likes everything to go according to its expectations. When our egos dominate the way we love, we end up at Russian Roulette where we will win when our most whimsical and selfish desires are satisfied. People with an increased ego seek first and foremost to be recognized by others, and in particular by their partners, because they are unable to recognize themselves.
- To achieve a rewarding relationship for both sides.
- We must negotiate with the wishes of our ‘I’.
- In this way we will achieve a relationship in which both feel good.
- In this sense the love we want is just as important as the love we offer.
If you want to achieve a state of happiness, go beyond your ego, abandon the need for control, the need for approval and the need to judge, are exactly the three needs that characterize the ego.
There are couples who end, return, finish, return and establish a grueling and destructive dynamic, often because one of us wants to continue in the early stages of passion, preventing the relationship from mature and develop.
The EX? Who live a love based on their own egos think they still have rights over their ex-looks and try to claim those rights primarily when they see how ex-children have rebuilt their lives. Former? He believes he has the right to enter and leave his ex-partner’s life and to demand the tidy and airy spaces that the other has managed to recreate with great effort.
In this sense, it is of no use to return to an old companion to go through the same things, to start again destroying the space that the other so much worked to rebuild. So if we were the ones who did this hard work, in an Exercise of Justice toward our efforts, it’s best to think about the decision, no matter how strong you want to speak the heart.
He thinks many people are trying to resume a relationship by following the famous phrase “better known than best known. “Others do it out of fear of loneliness and others because they have no one to feed their egos, no one to satisfy their desires or tell them how. well they are in such cases, these people are not worth it.
Apologizing doesn’t always mean you’re wrong and the other person is right. It just means you value your relationship more than your ego.
After a breakup, there may be a great desire to go back to that person we share so many experiences with, but?Be very careful. According to the experts, when considering this step, thinking about it for a while can be very positive before going through it, in the meantime, we have a task to do: to identify the reasons why we want to return, both the motives of the other person and our own and analyze them.
For example, to believe that the other will change some of the things we don’t like is to create an expectation that is unlikely to happen. On the other hand, if we reconnect with that person, we must love his way of being, his virtues and his flaws, but know that those things that we do not like can end the relationship.
Returning or not returning to an ex-partner is an extremely important decision, so we don’t have to make that decision by impulse, it is true that we can hear this impulse and even scale it, but an earlier ending and the effort we have made to repair the damage done deserves a posture with a little caution, a posture that does not cause fear.
? I want peace I am the ego, what I want is desire; eliminate ego and desire and you’ll have peace. ?- Sri Sathya Sai Baba-