“The concept you have of me will not change who I am,
But can you change my view of yourself?
Dr. House
Maybe you’ve stopped doing what you wanted to do several times for fear of what others thought of you. He felt that he should do what they expected, that he should live up to their expectations; otherwise, he would lose the approval of those around him. It’s time to start working on it, improve your self-esteem and be able to do whatever you want freely.
Think of yourself, what you really like. You have to be able to live your life independently, you have to do what you want without affecting you, no matter what others think, your life belongs to you, your actions too. You have to start thinking about yourself, what you want and do things as you feel.
You will often be afraid because, perhaps, you have always done so, doing everything you can to get the approval of others. Get out of this comfort zone, go to new places, explore your full potential, it’s possible!
The first thing you need to do is meet people who have the same ambitions as you, you need to expand your circle of friends. Discover new environments and places. Look at yourself; If your current friends don’t understand you, soon you’ll meet new people, people with the same interests as you, it’s very important that you make these connections, surround yourself with like-minded people and see that you’re not going to be judged by them. Then you’ll start doing what you really want.
You don’t have to change your circle of friends. Your new friends will be part of your life and friends “forever”, the ones who really love you, will stay by your side. Those who are always willing to see the drawbacks and question what you are trying to do will disappear on their own. Act at your own discretion and your new environment will accompany you.
Only people who support you and believe in you should stay in your life. Sometimes you may feel lonely. Don’t worry, little by little you will adapt, your friends will be outnumbered, perhaps very few, but worth millions.
To overcome your fear of non-approval, you must start discussing your plans or talk to your friends about your desires and dreams, talking to them you will be able to organize your ideas, your projects, you will feel confident and you will be able to take your new path without fear.
Then it’ll be easier. When you start, you’ll surely feel safe fighting for your dreams and what other people think won’t be important. You can tell everyone what you’re working on and what you hope to achieve. When you see that you have more confidence, that you feel safe, no one will tell you anything negative or criticize you. These things happen when you’re undecided, when, before you start, you’re afraid and insecure. But since you’ve already found your way, nothing other people say can affect you.
It’s probably not all gold, you’ll always find stones in your way, you must trust yourself and seek strength to move on, often your circle of friends or your closest family doesn’t understand what you’re doing as as as much as you explain it, ignore it. If necessary, go to these new friends, but don’t stop, don’t let opposites seduce you. You’re smart and you can find a way, I’m sure.
What you should be interested in is yourself. You should only like your actions, think about your goal and define the path you must take to achieve your dream, no one should prevent you from reaching it.
Who should you listen to? You are not going to do that. At this stage, you will have already managed to find like-minded people, who appreciate it for what it is. But at the end of the day, you are the only person you should listen to, meet, feel your confidence, feel that you will realize what you have decided to do.
Now that you’re 100% with you, many will want to join you. One of the hardest things in life is giving you your true courage, finding your place in the world. When I find you, when I meet you, everyone will see you that way. You decide who you share your life with, so choose the people who make you feel good.