There are those who find their happiness healing the wounds, the voids of others, no one can deny that sometimes it can be comforting to be the balm that heals past storms, the antidote to bitterness that others have left in the hearts of those. we love now.
Being that key part of your loved one’s daily life is important. But no one was born to be a daily crutch, not even a tearful handkerchief, let alone that potion with which you forget an impossible love or a love that hurts.
- When you offer yourself to someone.
- Do it fully.
- You are not a substitute for anyone.
- Nor is it the water that fills the unresolved voids of an immature person.
- You are not there to help but to love and be loved.
This doesn’t mean at all that you shouldn’t worry about your partner’s past, knowing what your needs are, what your inner scars and hidden demons are.
You need to know these things, but don’t try to jump in like a hero or heroine who pretends to save and heal all your wounds, it’s not your job, it’s not your essential responsibility.
Our goal is to accompany, grow as a couple, contribute and receive, love and be loved, it is about building a joint project where efforts are shared.
Does he who puts on the sole purpose of plugging the voids, filling the gaps and curing the desanimos, end up slowly fragmenting?
Have you ever had a partner with these kinds of features?They are people who demand more than they bring, at first they tend to captivate because in their eyes we are like that spirit that gives strength to all their needs, strength to their needs. and love their emptinesses.
Empty people are energy thieves and positive emotional destroyers, they must be reaffirmed, treated and valued, they understand love as a necessity and not as an exchange, not as the growth of two people who offer themselves in freedom.
If you’ve lived this on your own skin, you understand what this kind of relationship means, but while many people fall in love with them on more than one occasion, the first thing we think about is why this happens.
What attracts us to people with so many gaps?
? A person with gaps is a person with low self-esteem who needs to reassert himself.
? This type of personality attracts because, at first, they make us feel useful, special and important: only I make you happy, only my love makes you happy, makes you forget the past, do you feel alive?
? Initially, a passionate, high-intensity relationship is created. It is a love you need, but we must not forget that “the necessary loves become so demanding”.
? When someone is full of voids, he is inhabited by insecurities, so it is common for them to be cautious, to desire continuous manifestations of love, which gradually become a clear emotional blackmail.
What do we mean when a person has gaps?The voids are unresolved wounds of the past, it is helplessness, low self-esteem and frustration that, far from being solved, becomes a weapon.
The responsibility for meeting all these needs lies with the companion.
We talked about it at the beginning and we repeat it again: as a couple, as someone who has volunteered for another, you deserve to love and be loved.
Your responsibility is not to heal, it is not to be a daily refuge, nor someone who meets the needs of others without regard to one’s own.
You know who you are and what you deserve, and if someone offers you your heart so that you can occupy the space that someone else has left, what you offer is a love in half, a love with a taste of blackmail that will also fill. you, emotional emptinesses.
We all know that it’s very difficult to control the people we fall in love with, it just happens, inadvertently, unintentionally.
For there are loves that bind and drag like gales that blind us, and even if they make us feel alive, they also hurt us.
However, it is good that you have these clear principles in your daily life: