We’re all a little fragmented. We carry our broken pieces trying to put together the impossible puzzle from our own hearts, wishing to offer love again, we want to love and be loved, yet are the disappointments already burning us too much?
We often hear that whenever we are willing to do anything for others, we must be prepared to disappoint ourselves at some point, somehow it is as if the pain is always implied when we talk about affection, love and affection. it’s not entirely true.
- I was intimately surprised by people I thought I knew very well.
- Maybe I expected a lot from those who never gave me anything.
- Maybe I made the mistake of offering love to those who just wanted a “service” contract.
- Case.
- Get tired.
- Are you so tired of disappointments?.
Our own emotional and social brain yearns for the peace of mind of a secure bond. Safety ultimately guarantees our survival and that explains why we feel so much pain when we’re disappointed. Something in us breaks, it breaks. The secure bond disappears and all that’s left is emptiness.
We may sometimes create a very high expectation about something or someone, perhaps, but we all need certain assurances that we will not get hurt, that anyone we choose to offer love will not let us down, or break this bond like that, anyway.
From what they warn us, no one is willing to take disappointments as one?in our daily relationships.
We are used to hearing that disappointments are not caused by inappropriate behavior, but by the false expectations we create about things, however, this manual phrase makes no sense in some cases, especially when the behavior is really cruel, unexpected and painful.
When you have a good friendship with someone, it doesn’t live up to your expectations to be criticized in the back; when a person reaches an advanced age, it is also not in their expectations to be abandoned by their own children. and believes he is loved, he will never expect to be abused or humiliated by his loved one.
There are genuine, deep and heartbreaking disappointments. Offering love after these remarkable experiences is an almost impossible mission, as it takes time. The time hands must sew and repair wounds, the “broken pieces”, whether the brain, believes it or not. , also interprets it as real wounds.
According to a study published in the journal? Acts of the National Academy of Sciences and led by emotional psychologist Ethan Kross, rejections, betrayals and deep disappointments are interpreted by the brain as a blow, burn or traumatic physical impact.
The region of the brain that is most active in these cases is the insula, directly related to pain, all this shows us that, for the brain, a disappointment is the breaking of a thread that gave us security, confidence in something or someone. which has now dissipated. Offering love again after these experiences is not easy, however, this can be a good remedy for healing wounds.
There are disappointments that have no impact, which look like those that tolerate the sting of a rose or drink every day in a broken cup but are arranged with glue and a lot of affection, because it is the favorite. We heal, forgive and move on. Now, one thing we cannot ignore is to let the heart turn to stone, in this case this stone will fall forever into this cold well of discouragement, vulnerability and failure.
Authentic love doesn’t hurt. Sincere friendship does not betray, whoever loves you may disappoint you once, but never again, so we suggest you think for a few moments about these simple strategies that can serve to overcome these complex moments.
Disappointment makes us feel vulnerable. When a person feels fragile, without offering love, what he needs is to receive it, to receive it mainly from himself to get up, to recognize himself again with all his integrity, strength and self-esteem, something like this only gives time, in addition to good inner work.
It is better to remember one essential thing: choose for yourself, you above all, above all fears, uncertainties and resentments, re-choose hope and, above all, continue to cultivate what is really worthwhile: offering love. all the disappointments, there are still good people.