In many of the circumstances of our lives we impose very harsh demands that lead us to develop feelings of guilt and discomfort, it is very difficult to escape this: we are forced to balance and improve our self-esteem to get out of this place. where we close.
What happens is that the problems are sometimes very big, and instead of getting some improvement in self-esteem as we just said, we end up going the other way, trying to belittle others, believing that seeing the worst of each other we will see each other. another a little better: the criticism directed at the other can be a reflection of our interior.
- However.
- Doing this is a mistake.
- This way of escaping what is happening to us is not only selfish.
- But also useless: criticizing others is an attitude that reveals.
- Among other things.
- Frustration and insecurity.
- In this way we must set aside free criticism for malice.
- So that people can stop being toxic and cause much less harm to others.
- Including unconscious damage.
We grew up educated from what our community decided to be conventional, because we’re used to applauding the things we internalize as good and criticizing or judging those that generally assume they’re bad. When our behavior comes out of the line of social desire, we suppress ourselves and feel bad about it.
However, there are people who go out of line, who live uncensored and who follow their own path: this is what makes them happy, it is easy for those who censor their own lives to criticize and judge who does not Do So, because the problem that the person has is with himself: criticism defines the critic, not the criticism.
Our interior is reflected in our relationships with others, even if we do not want to, if we feel that we are not happy and that it is up to us to change the situation, we must do it, otherwise, rejections, insults, contempt for others, will continue to be in one direction: ourselves and our emotional emptiness.
“Is there very strong evidence that the higher our self-esteem, the better we will be able to treat others?-Nathaniel Branden-
Some of the resources used by a person who constantly criticizes others include:
There are key behaviors that help us improve self-esteem, thus preventing our inner discomfort from relating with others who have nothing to do with it:
“Self-esteem is the ability to know, accept and appreciate, which allows us to live a more balanced, joyful, harmonious and productive life. -Reny Yagosesky-