“I don’t know what decision to make. ” This is perhaps one of the most common phrases spoken by people who are unsure and therefore resist living.
Making a decision involves taking responsibility for the consequences it can have, so it’s not an easy task, especially if it’s an important issue.
- Actually we all know how to make decisions.
- What’s going on is that we have doubts and we’re afraid we won’t choose the right path.
- And that paralyzes us.
If we are confident, it is easy to make decisions, but our insecurity and fears prevent us from doing so.
We don’t feel safe when we’re not focused on ourselves, and we’re worried about what others will think of our decision.
We won’t be able to make a decision if we focus on what others expect or say about it.
Insecurity increases and, as a result, indecision and fears increase; becomes a vicious dead-end circle and we feel increasingly blocked and paralyzed.
Feeling safe means having good self-esteem, a good relationship with yourself, appreciating who you are, and being aware of your strengths and weaknesses.
To have personal security is to know oneself, to know our values and desires in life.
“Sometimes a small decision can change your life forever. “
-Keri Russell-
When we have to make a decision and we have many options, we need to connect with ourselves, know who we are and what we expect from life.
It is important not to worry about the opinions of others and to act on your personal values.
It is necessary to think about each option, rating its pros and cons
The best way to evaluate the pros and cons is by giving a numerical valuation, depending on the importance of each particular aspect, for example we can give a score of 0 to 5 and, depending on the result, it will be easier to decide.
In this way, we are able to assess the importance of each element, which benefits us the most.
Therefore, it is important that the assessment of each aspect is sincere, based on our personal interests and not on the interests of others.
After analyzing all aspects, the reasons for the pros and cons, make your decision.
So you just have to inform others and explain your reasons, which you like and consider very important.
After that, act on the decision made, lead your life along this path, remembering at all times the reasons why you came to this starting point.
The worst decision is the one we don’t make
We are afraid of any change in life and this makes us doubt our decisions.
And who knows what the best decision is?
The only person who can evaluate what’s best for me is me
We may be wrong, but mistakes lead us to learn. To live is to walk in life without knowing what awaits us in the future.
Therefore, once we have analysed our motives, it is worth making the decision to move forward and overcome our fears.
Moreover, not making a decision may be the worst option, because it blocks our path and the consequences can be much worse than those that lead us to the chosen path, because they correspond to our deepest desires and values.
“Brave is not the one who is not afraid, but the one who defeats him. “