When it comes to talking about emotions, the sensible thing to do is not try to explain them, because we already know that we can’t control them in all their essence, all we can do is feel, understand and shape them. so that those who can hurt us don’t hurt us. I don’t want to explain what was born in you, just try to understand so you don’t get lost in illusions.
In that sense, you know this feeling of everything or nothing better than anyone else: whether we like it or not, there can be no common ground, that is, any kind of love requires its total abandonment towards the other person, but what sometimes we forget is that abandonment must also be for us: remember to love you while loving another person.
“And if the heart gets tired of loving, what good is it?”- Mario Benedetti-
When you forget about yourself what happens is that you start to love yourself toxicly and, in many cases, it makes you love blindfolded, so what happens is that you don’t see reality, but what you imagine can be real.
If you find yourser in a situation like the one we described earlier with a family member, a friend, a partner, and you continue to maintain it, you probably feel that the reality is very hard. Do you probably prefer it? To live something, that is not real in parallel, embracing illusions.
However, these conditions are unhealthy. Remember that you are not a coward because you are afraid, but you must be brave and name your monsters: nothing justifies this love if it does not bring happiness.
Similarly, it’s important to know that it’s not good to let your spaces and independence stop, because this only causes lies and more lies, suspicions, disappointments and many useless attitudes that you and the other person don’t deserve.
Your emotions say what you are at some point, but they have to be in tune with who you really are, in fact, you don’t want to be a sad person who’s not well, don’t you want to be a happy person?
Therefore, the relationships you have in your life that are important to you must allow you to be who you really are, in these relationships reciprocity is important: just as you love completely, you must be completely loved, always aware of the limit. not to attack each other’s space and happiness.
Remember that to truly love first, you must be true to yourself and love yourself without illusions.
There are certain types of love that are like a mirage, that are unreal and that do not allow us to be ourselves, on the contrary, these types of love do not help us to grow and limit ourselves, below we highlight what they are:
“And one thing I can swear to you: I who have fallen in love with your wings, I never want to cut them. -Carlos Miguel Cortés-