I don’t like comforting lies, or half-truths, let alone whole lies, I prefer the truth, even if it hurts, even if it breaks my soul, because at least I’ll be free to go the way I want and heal myself. my wounds over time.
As children, it is normal to educate ourselves so that we always tell the truth, but in the end there is always a time when one makes a first use of the lie: avoid punishment, achieve a goal, adapt to a situation?
- Sometimes it only takes one lie to question all the truths.
- Is it when we lose everything.
- When our integrity loses strength.
- So does our value?.
It is clear that we have all used these half-truths at some point in our lives. However, if there is one thing we know is that there are different degrees of lies and that the nature of many lies in the situation in which we find ourselves. No problem if when asked “how are we?”, we answer that we are “wonderfully fine”, even if it is a lie and we are going through a bad time, we understand that this is a simple formalism of little importance.
The lie takes on a more negative tone if we use it to harm those around us, there are those who use the lie because they fear that truth will cause them a lot of pain, or that the consequences will affect the person undesirablely.
The lie takes prisoners and condemns us to keep lives empty, false and devoid of authenticity We all suffer from the behaviors and attitudes of those who claim to love us, but who cover our eyes by repeating that everything is fine. That it’s okay?
A pious lie or lie seeking comfort will never be tolerable. None of us have the right to act in such a paternalistic way that it believes that the other person is not “valid”, or is not worthy to know the truth. .
What hurts are not lies or lies uttered with admirable integrity; what hurts, what bleeds in our souls, are the truths that are silent and the words that are kept.
If you were lied to once, what will accumulate in you is an uncomfortable memory full of anger, misunderstanding and sadness.
The disappointment provoked does not always come from the fact that a certain reality was hidden from us, what despairs us is that at some point they thought that we had not done it, to know the truth.
Are there those who say it’s impossible to practice this? Uncompromising sincerity that nothing shuts up and everything is revealed. We’re talking about a kind of “Sincericide” that compares personal opinions to absolute truths. Thus, it manifests itself without any filter and any damage it may cause.
It is something simpler: that my truth makes you free, that my sincerity allows you to grow, taking the path you desire, because in our relationship there are no lies or silences that hide realities.
They say the truth hurts, the lie kills and the doubt despairs. They are all impulses, human emotions that we live in the flesh itself. Nobody’s safe from them.
Don’t worry if you make me cry with the truth, I’d rather you destroy me with the lie and keep hiding it as if nothing had happened, as if everything was okay.
We deserve to build sincere relationships based on respect and recognition. While we are absolutely certain that we are also entitled to our private spaces, secrets and intimacies, the lie will never go hand in hand with a conscious and mature relationship.
At this point, you may wonder why we use lies. Here are the main explanations:
All these behaviors have already been experienced at some point, first or second person, however, the most important thing of all this is not only to tell the truth, but also to know how to receive it:
Keep in mind that sincerity is the most important value if you want to undertake a life project with another person, so always demand the truth, because it will be the only way to build this relationship with firmness and integrity.
Never say the opposite of what you think, don’t use the lie if you want to be happy and never be afraid of the truth: because only this will free you and allow you to grow as a person.
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