Unfortunately, there are still a lot of inequalities between men and women.
Many times these inequalities are hidden: we do not even perceive them because they are perfectly integrated into our culture, and others are even driven by women themselves, who despite the progress we have already made in many areas still cannot be valued in a way compatible with their weight in society.
- Fortunately.
- There are fewer and fewer of these inequalities and women are considered more than ever at all levels.
However, there are still unresolved tasks that we continue to suffer from. For example, many women feel they have to give absolutely everything: they have to become super women, demigods.
We must have the house in perfect condition, we must raise our children perfectly (perfect for us, perfect for our partner, perfect for our mother-in-law, perfect for social networks?), We must be beautiful, neat and fashionable. Sure, we have to be hard-working, or would we be? On the other hand, if we did not work, we would receive the misunderstanding of other women who could not understand that we chose a different way of life from yours, without anyone. forcing us to do so.
Moreover, if we do not fulfill all of our “obligations,” subtle pressures will soon appear in the form of supposedly innocent but critical questions. But you don’t work,” you haven’t published your thesis, “you’re going to leave the child in kindergarten being as small, ” “you don’t dress like you used to, are you?
Non. Et I say it with a full mouth. Perhaps some time ago, I would fall into this trap that has been trying for a long time to catch women, perhaps I felt compelled to respect everything, to meet the needs of others before mine and to commit myself or put myself in positions that do not interest me at the moment just to obtain the approval of others.
But I’m not going to go through with this game. Before we are women, we are people, and like all human beings, men or women, we have our personal rights and also our limits.
It’s impossible to want to achieve everything we’re supposed to do, let alone want to do it perfectly.
All of us, women and men, are fallible beings. Some things we will do well or very well and others terribly wrong, the key is not to let ourselves be pressured by the ideas or social obligations that the world wants us to take as its own, let alone to devalue ourselves so as not to. to achieve perfection, because then we will always feel inferior.
What is the importance for the world, for life or for the Universe that one day you go out on the street more scruffy than usual ?, What is the problem of spending work or studying for a while because we prefer to be with our children?What is the problem if, on the contrary, we prefer to follow our own professional life and choose day care?
Why is the world so involved in what women do?
The first and most important thing is to take good care of our own self-esteem, among women we generally have a lower self-esteem than men because of the ideas we have received since we were girls about the role we must play in society. .
This role often clashes with what we really want to do with our lives and fills us with frustration and anxiety.
Does the woman realize that it is never enough, that she should be better: better employee, better mother, better lover?As this perfection demanded from the outside is unattainable, we always feel a failure, and this involves a kick in our self. remember that every time you’re not proud of what you’ve done, you get a positive boost to your self-esteem.
The next tip is that you don’t do what you don’t want just for the need for approval, look no further for this acceptance because it’s not real: there will always be something they’ll criticize you for, otherwise. on the one hand, it will be on the other, but we can never be satisfied with the whole world.
It is true that we have obligations like all of us, but they must be chosen by us with all our trust, not imposed by culture.
Finally, put the blame behind me. Women feel guilty about almost everything: going back to work so fast, staying home, not preparing food, not spending so much time with friends, being more successful professionally than the man we have ours. .
Enough! Guilt is useless and it turns out to think we’re doing something wrong. Forget this idea because it’s not true. You do your best and live the life that you, and only you, want to live. No one can feel guilty about taking care of himself above others.
Finally, I can only congratulate you on being a woman, for all that you have achieved and there is still work to be done, and I would also like to greet these women who no longer get carried away with what the world expects of us. : they will change our situation and prevent women of the next generations from as their own the obligations that still fall on much of today’s society.