As psychologist Walter Riso says in his book “Manual to Not Die of Love”: marrying a lover is like putting salt on dessert. The roller coaster that triggers a lover includes sexual satisfaction, affection, joy, fear, disappointment, dreams, love and heartbreak, laughter, tears and many other oscillations. Lovers are shaken by a storm of feelings they have without a cure and make it difficult for them to escape.
Walter Riso says the effect? Spa? Having a lover (sex, massages, caresses, orgasms, beautiful words, stress reduction, blocking worries for a few hours) creates a very deep addiction, but these are situations that we idealize and that it is essential to think about to have a proper perspective.
- “A dignified and conflict-free loneliness is preferable to an incomplete relationship.
- In which necessity prevails.
- “.
? Walter Riso?
In relationships with a lover, there may be a time when we want to make our lover our “official” partner, but we have several questions to ask ourselves: Are you ready to face the opinions of others? Do you think that love is enough to live? as a couple? Will the passion last?
When we start a relationship with a married or committed person, whether male or female, everything is usually very nice or passionate, however, we cannot forget that no one will value or love us if we do not love and value ourselves. it is essential to think deeply at the right time to have a clear perspective. I know clearly why I’m not your lover or someone else, and here are my reasons:
Because you used an unfaithful person’s arguments with me. ” My partner doesn’t make me happy, but I can’t leave it to my children; I haven’t had sex with my partner in a long time; I feel attached. “to the relationship; I’m much better off with you and you’re doing me good. They are the same arguments that anyone unfaithful to their partner uses to justify and deceive the current couple and their lover.
“Sometimes the first thing we have to lose is hope in love. “
? Walter Riso?
But not only for your arguments, I also don’t want to be your lover for other reasons:
Because I have feelings. I could fall in love with you, I could love you because, as a person, I have feelings and sensitivity for life and for others. Why do I think you should ask yourself, what if I were with you?What if the lover is you? How you’d feel
Besides, I don’t want to hurt the other person or the children, nor do I want them to hurt me and, above all, I don’t want to be your lover because I love and appreciate myself, I’m a valuable person and I won’t let you diminish my courage, compare me to someone else or lie to me.
I don’t want to be your lover because I’m not afraid of the caresses of loneliness, but of feeling alone with someone, I won’t hide from anything or anyone else, because I love myself enough to know that you don’t deserve me.
Don’t worry about people from your past; Is there a reason they haven’t reached their future?
? Paulo Coelho?