Although many people think otherwise, you don’t need to have a partner to shine with your own light. Because you’ve already come into the world with a star inside you, which is the same one that guides you through dark nights and chooses to dance with another bright star whenever you want and if you get the chance.
Plato said with great wisdom that “in contact with love, everyone becomes a poet. “Suddenly we encounter forces that we thought were lost and the world acquires a patina of luminous splendor. This emotional ecstasy is certainly worth living. However, passion is not the only state of the human being. They can also shine in solitude, in this state of calm and satisfaction where nothing is superfluous and nothing is missing.
There are two ways to spread happiness: to be the shining light or the mirror that reflects it. Edith Wharton?
A companion can bring us vitality, happiness, sexuality, tenderness and intimacy, however, we must make it very clear that we cannot use love as a magic potion to heal our dissatisfaction with life, if you don’t shine inside you can ‘steal someone else’s light thinking that their energy will be enough for both of us. This may be for a limited time, but gradually the light will turn off.
Today, many of us still live encapsulated in certain preconceived notions of an ideal love that will happen and erase our frustrations, yet frustrations do not go away, do not destroy and do not escape through the gaps of destroyed dreams, but are overcome by the person himself.
Can we think about that?
Butterflies are fascinating beings. They have positive phototaxia, that is, they are attracted by light, they are guided and guided by the moon in their night migrations and mating rituals, however, today due to the large number of artificial lights there are fewer butterflies. their attraction to projectors, it is common for them to end up losing their lives flying around the lamps of our homes.
Impressive is the one that shines without turning off the light of others.
In affective relationships something similar usually happens, are there people who have their own light, are they like them?Lamps? They glow in the dark. They can shine because they are accomplished people, with high self-esteem, and this fascinating magic is hypnotic to others, it is common for others to be attracted to it and begin a relationship in the hope that that calm and light will alleviate their fears. , their dissatisf with their dissatisfations, and illuminate their dark corners.
Of course, there are many types of relationships, some come together to soothe desires, others to enjoy intimacy and some people seek a real connection to build a future, there is not a perfect model of relationship, but relationships that enrich or impoverish us. He who asks us to use our light for his own benefit, to comfort his sufferings and insecurities, robs us of our strength and energies.
As already mentioned, a partner can make us happy, but it is not genuine happiness because it depends on the person, today it is very common to see many married people or in a long-term affective relationship that they report loving their spouse or emotionally. couple and yet they are not happy. They feel an inner emptiness, an unease, a kind of inexplicable frustration.
Choose everything you can be: choose to shine
We must understand that happiness, as a state of absolute ecstasy, does not exist, if it exists is for very little time, fast as a summer dream, but that is not why we must feel sad or discouraged, as we pointed out in the beginning, we were all born with a star in us, it is there, even if you do not see it: the mere fact of knowing how to enlighten it will enlighten us and guide us.
However, this light only turns on when you have enough energy, it feeds on these internal forces that are sometimes overlooked: self-esteem, personal safety, autonomy, emotional autonomy and a good image of yourself. You have to be in a good mood, be grateful, be creative and not let the darkness of fear surround us like those storm clouds that cover the sun on spring days.
You don’t need others to have your light, don’t ask, turn off, or steal each other’s light in exchange for love, we are all able to shine in the solitude of our own worlds, only then will we be worthy to do so. create more beautiful heavens: places where this true love reigns, which always begins in itself, and then radiates completely and authentically in this dedication to the beloved.