Who has never been through a bad time in their life?We definitely all had falls and they made us feel bad. However, when we shared the situation with our loved ones, they gave us answers like this: “Well, the past is in the past, now we have to look to the future?”Stop thinking about it and trying to be happy?”, etc.
The waters of the past don’t move the mills, do they?Does this mean that I can’t be affected by the bad things that happen to me, does this mean that if something affects me I have to pretend and continue as if nothing had happened, should we be happy under the circumstances?No!
- In today’s society it is enacted that we must be happy in spite of everything.
- We cannot be sad.
- Afflicted or irritated.
- Happiness is taken as a flag.
- You can see it everywhere.
- The reality is that being happy is wonderful.
- How can we deny it?.
We are bombarded with messages of joy, happiness and optimism, both on social networks and in the media, at this point when someone does not feel as happy as they should, feelings of frustration are generated because reality does not meet expectations. The discomfort comes and thoughts like “if he’s happy, why not me?”
It turns out that being happy in any circumstance is very difficult for us, isn’t it, if something doesn’t go as planned or if something bad happens to us, negative emotions happen, without us having much freedom to avoid it.
So what happens, shouldn’t we be happy or can’t we feel bad in certain situations?Of course, it’s good to be happy, but we also have to avoid reinforcing negative feelings, which we can have at any time, thinking it should feel good.
Emotions happen as our body’s response to certain situations, but how do they appear?It depends on the individual’s appreciation of what is happening, so positive emotions are those that generate pleasant feelings, they appear when the situation is valued as positive, so it is not necessary to mobilize resources to try to change or leave it. Situation.
Negative emotions generate unpleasant feelings. They occur when a situation is considered harmful, which leads us to mobilize many resources to deal with and overcome it. Therefore, to “move on,” as our loved ones say, it is necessary for those negative emotions to appear.
For example, if something scares us, it makes us try to protect ourselves; However, when something irritates us, it prepares us to defend ourselves from possible harm, if what we feel sucks, will this emotion cause us to move away from that?Can it be harmful or toxic to us. And when we are sad, this sadness helps us accept loss, making us think so that we can restore what happened.
Good question! As we have already seen, the truth is that emotions arise to adapt in the best possible way to the different situations and changes that occur around us, that is, they are necessary, both positive and negative.
The secret is when emotions can be harmful to us, if they invade us very often can cause various psychosomatic diseases, as well as anxiety or mood disorders, how do you differentiate between normal emotion and harmful emotion?To do this, we have a number of parameters:
As we understand the above, we must realize that it is beneficial for us that negative emotions appear when they will appear, we do not have to avoid this discomfort, but it is also not a good idea to abandon it. to control emotions, once they have helped to properly process a particular fact, they must disappear, so that we can, once and for all, be happy and move on.
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