There are people who have a partner, but they feel as lonely and empty as if they don’t have them, there are others who, not knowing how to wait, decide to walk next to someone who is wrong, and selfishness does not allow it. get away even if you know it doesn’t make you happy.
There are people who maintain marriages or commitments simply because being alone is difficult and unacceptable, there are people who choose to be in second place and who try to get to the first place, but the path is difficult, uncomfortable and fills them with pain and abandonment.
- But there are other people who are alone and shining and who live life in the best way.
- They are people who do not go out.
- On the contrary; every day they have more and more light.
- They are the people who learn to enjoy loneliness because loneliness helps them approach themselves.
- Grow and strengthen.
It is these people who, one day, without knowing exactly when or why, will find themselves side by side with love, true love, and will fall in love in a wonderful way.
Mother Teresa of Calcutta
Do I feel empty even though I have everything and I don’t lack anything, do I feel incomplete despite having a wonderful person with me?, etc. , does that ring a bell?
It is very likely that this feeling of unhappiness and dissatisfaction is very familiar, it is the emotional vacuum, a painful companion in our lives that makes us feel alone and incomplete.
The truth is that the possibility of feeling empty terrifies and blocks us makes perfect sense, because there is no more penetrating pain than facing our emotional reality.
And he asks some pretty emotionally awkward questions: “If I have everything, what more can I want?What more can I wish for if my partner is already perfect?How many friends do I need to have so I don’t feel lonely?”
Well, maybe your partner is perfect and wonderful, but your relationship isn’t perfect or wonderful for you. The disappointment and pain you feel indicates that something needs to change, and if you don’t want to keep feeling unwell, you need to start now. .
You can have it all, too, but there may be something you think you’ll never be able to achieve. It may be surrounded by people, but all these people may not be suitable, or you may even need to change scenarios.
The emotional emptiness hides behind slavery, desire, sadness and the need for affection and emotional freedom, presents itself before us in a cruel way, masked by a mixture of feelings, doubt, exhaustion and lack of dreams.
But why does this happen, why does the emptiness come, attack us with a heavy emotional blow and make us unhappy?The answer is very simple: we do not know each other well, you have already understood your needs, how do you feel, where do you want to go go and what are you willing to do to achieve it?
In other words, the right question is not what happens in our lives, but who we are, who we want to live it, knowing this, we must stop thinking that we are great, beautiful and pleasant people and that the important thing is to have a handful of illusions that support us.
We must set aside the wrong approaches and define the present moment. That is, the important thing is not whether we are doctors, salespeods or domestic workers. Continuing to think like this leaves us empty, full of illusions and without identity.
Therefore, it is essential to realize that the price to pay for our ignorance is very high. Do you really want to be a doctor, find the love of your life or live up to your parents’ expectations?We are not satisfied with that and that is where our problems lie.
When our self fails, an emotional vacuum appears. Then everything becomes a simple label, a bandage that covers our wounds and prevents our eyes from seeing.
The emotional vacuum is clear and unbearable, because it reminds us that we need something we cannot determine, flooding with despair and desolation.
We can try to fill it by eating too much, looking for great love, drinking alcohol, exagerating ourselves in the gym or overloading our schedule. However, this unbearable feeling of “I need something, but I don’t know what it is. “He’s still here, lurking.
Without a doubt, emptiness determines our life and well-being, becoming the balance that maintains the structures of our emotions, in fact this?Brain disconnection? What occurs between the limbic and prefrontal system is the same as in people with depression.
Fighting the void is not easy. It seems that this is the most negative of the emotions and feelings that exist, and that we are opposed to destroying ourselves.
However, we can still decide whether we will take control of our lives and begin to define what bothers us, or whether we will continue in a drifting boat in a sea of uncertainty and pain.
Everyone has to immerse themselves inside and try to find the key that causes the feeling of emptiness, there are no magic formulas or foolproof remedies, the solution is in each of them and, therefore, it only depends on you discovering the truth. In the end, change is a door that can only be opened from the inside.