It’s no secret that our society puts a lot of pressure on women so they never get old. “I feel old, ” say many voices, a between confusion and sadness. Why should I associate only negative ideas with the end of women’s youth?
Don’t the years also bring other pleasures that young people can’t enjoy?It seems that youth only have positive aspects and that old age is only a place of loss, nothing further from the truth.
- Nor is youth that wonderful and problem free.
- And the passing of the years is not synonymous with decadence.
- There is a lot of evidence from the reality that supports it.
Do I feel old, mainly because it is an affirmation that most of the time we hear from middle-aged women, that is, women who have not yet entered the old age phase.
This is exactly what we’ll discuss next: what’s behind this expression.
“Forget birthdays and start making your dreams come true. ” – F. Javier González-
Implicitly, the phrase do I feel old? It is associated with certain concrete facts, and in many cases it is an indirect way of talking about the physical changes we have undergone over the years.
In addition, it can also be a partnership with the couple’s life. In addition, it is used to talk about uncertainty about the person’s place in society.
There is a whole cultural imaginary about what it means to be a woman, a gender that has been extremely sexualized: women must be beautiful, healthy, pleasant and, after all, young.
The not so beautiful, not so healthy, not so pleasant or not so young seems not to fit into the concept of the feminine.
You don’t have to go very far. It’s enough to see the types of women our society calls “models. “The parameters that define them are so rigid that very few women identify with this model.
By naming them “models,” we implicitly claim that they correspond to the most perfect expression of what it’s like to be a woman. Certainly, a woman over the age of forty barely corresponds to the parameters of the models. When observing such patterns, it is natural for many women to say they feel old.
Young women are also under many types of pressure and generate greater acceptance in both men and society at large.
There are other types of taxes. Be beautiful, for example. Or be thin, have a boyfriend or have children, be elegant. But those that are beautiful, thin and elegant also suffer the pressure of the eyes, not always well-intentioned.
If we pay attention to it, this vision of young women and older women is strongly influenced by machismo, which still survives in many parts of the world.
Men are often allowed to legitimize women and decide which characteristics favor them and which do not. Of course, not all men reproduce these taxes, but unfortunately many do.
That’s where the difficulty lies. Whether it’s men or anyone else, the truth is that no one should determine what we’re worth or what we’re worth. No one has the right to do that and we have no reason to let that happen.
Beyond all consideration, we are above all people, and people of all ages make wonderful contributions and limitations, in many ways.
The best age is always the one we are in and achieve balance and, in fact, it is easier to do so at an advanced age.
If a woman says, “I feel old,” it would be appropriate to identify what makes her feel that way. Perhaps she frequents environments in which “commercial” of women. Or it’s also possible that your circle of friends is more critical than necessary.
While searching for other, more liberating environments and friendships, you may discover that you may be living one of the most wonderful phases of your life.
Perhaps women spend much of our lives focusing on the needs and expectations of others, with adulthood and old age the most of us being able to think about ourselves.
That’s when we can take care of ourselves, accept each other, spread our wings and, instead of saying “I feel old,” shout out loud “I feel alive!”