Don’t explain everything you do: it’s an unnecessary source of stress, you don’t have to justify the way you are with those who already judge you differently, uniquely, who loves him respects him. So avoid falling into the culture of . . . What are you going to say?And protect your privacy and beliefs.
One thing that characterizes today’s society is that there are standards for everything from the physical aspect to what is considered?Normal, such as getting married, having children, etc. Social and even family pressure often forces us to explain everything we do (or decide not to do).
- Practice personal freedom and the art of assertiveness.
- Stop explaining everything you do: those who don’t love you and those who won’t understand what you want.
One important thing we need to start doing today is to think how many times we justify ourselves to others, to do this too much is to fall into inconsistencies, suffering and unnecessary costs, you are your own judge and you have the right to say, “No, I’m not going to explain it to you because it doesn’t concern you at all. “
An interesting article published in it? Psychology Today explains that we must learn to confront all those who dare to question our “vital decisions. “
? How come you’re not married yet?
? When are you going to act and get a good job?
? Why don’t you have another child?
The most complex of these situations is that of the judges who value our decisions or not the actions, they are precisely the closest relatives, so the pressure and the feeling of stress are greater.
To better understand the most common sources of suffering, it is necessary to consider these dimensions with which we can all feel identified.
Apply the following rule to your life: do things instead of talking about them, because things, once done, speak for themselves and need no explanation.
A study conducted at Ohio University (USA) And published in the magazine?Behavior modification? He explains that simply developing and implementing assertive strategies improves our health and the quality of our social relationships.
We all have affirmative rights, i. e. you can and should have your own opinions and beliefs, with the right to value your feelings and behavior, and to accept them as valid even if others do not accept them or do not accept them.
Right now, how do we internalize and apply these pillars to our nearest reality?We invite you to take note:
Before you give an explanation, think about whether what you’re going to say will help something better, or fix or avoid something. If not, don’t worry, smile and be quiet.