In the mid-1970s, a series of Robert Zajonc laboratory experiments showed that individuals’ exposure to family stimuli was sufficient to classify them more positively, compared to similar stimuli, which, however, have not yet been classified. had been introduced. This effect is known as “single exposure” effect. or “familiarity effect,” and that’s something that drives advertising investment.
That is, this experience tells us that although something is not very attractive we will get used to his presence just by getting acquainted with him; however, human psychology is a little more complex. Reaching a certain point, even if something is presented to us several times, it can stop being familiar and begin to overload, to be heavy and demotivating.
- The saying: can you get used to the worst? it doesn’t always seem to be fulfilled in reality.
- There are facts that have damaged our patience and we want them to stop being common.
- We want this evil to be out of our lives.
- It’s the luxury of getting away from what lacks patience.
- It’s a luxury because sometimes it’s out of our reach.
- And because its benefits are often a complete elixir of serenity and calm.
Many skills become amazing when tested in extreme situations. It’s not the same with patience, that ability that seems to run out and run out with certain people and situations that push her quite often to the limit.
People who continually ask for forgiveness, which justifies recurring mistakes, explosions and lack of consideration Monotonous and eternal situations, which are reproduced in time over and over again, varying in form, but not in substance: you always find yourself exhausted, sore and irritated .
All this cluster of sensations leads us to think about theory, but not in practice: playing with our patience is not fun, it is exhausting and frustrating, to turn a blind eye to attitudes that hurt us over and over again is the opposite of maturity, it is emotional masochism.
Before analyzing and judging what is detrimental to our patience, we need to analyze ourselves, if you continually expose yourself to what irritates you, expose your naked body to an increasingly sharp, increasingly accurate and accurate battalion of knives in damage. they make you.
If you already know what to do and you don’t know, it’s not someone else’s responsibility, it’s yours alone. You know what you’re exposing to, so having a new disappointment is a matter of time. You play Russian roulette with your patience and dignity. Even if you think you’re doing it so as not to avoid conflict with the people you love, you give carte blanche to anything other than your business.
Therefore, patience is a limited capacity, it is a virtue when you put it at the service of something that interests us in the long term or when you need it very much in exceptional situations, such as a big boy joke or enduring someone’s delay.
Therefore, patience must not define us, but characterize us: I have patience for what it deserves or for which I find no other remedy. I have no patience for what continually irritates me for no apparent reason, waiting for absolute complacency and silence on my part. It’s not being patient, it’s hurting yourself without needing to, without having any other safe reward than pain.
The key to being patient with what we really need is not spending it on what doesn’t require it, if a friend always changes her plans as she sees fit, if a colleague is always late or if someone is lying in the usual way. That way, we must show you that we don’t like your behavior and that we’re not prepared to tolerate this anymore.
Silence about the attitudes and behaviors that hurt us makes us complicit in the pain others cause us. Kindness and patience have a limit, and it is the loss of naivety to assume that things are going to change on their own, without taking advantage of the situation that directly affects us.
Getting away from what you saw your patience is a luxury and a good decision, because we don’t have to walk the roads again where most of the time we find excuses, lies, contempt or contempt. To want to be patient is to love oneself.
Some people will be surprised to follow this healthy path, as they lack a sense of self-criticism and do not know that their patience is a limited good and that the energy to withstand continuous insults must be better harnessed.
Patience must be directed towards something that always brings discomfort and nervousness. As familiar as it is in our lives, does everyone have the ability to say it?I don’t want to go through this anymore. Our patience is a value, but also a beacon that identifies people who only test it informally.