When you know who you are, you don’t need anyone’s approval, because few sensations are as liberating as living without the need to prove anything, to feel faithful, to own your own decisions and to design the maps where you live, dignity and wise, free and colorful soul.
It’s not easy. Reaching this stage of life, where self-expression and emotional luminosity give way to our true self, without prejudice and without the anguish of being judged or rejected, involves initiating an inner revolution for which not everyone is prepared. is mainly in our mental structure, always focused on the evaluation of others ably than self-ception.
“I am who I am and that’s why I’m happy
We live in a windowed society, the world is like a theatrical scene where someone sets what the rule is, what is expected and what is appropriate for others to start dancing at this rate without too much delay. realizing, we become sad supporting actors of made-up stories: those that have nothing to do with our identity, our values or our principles.
Let us not forget that the image we have of ourselves is not transmitted or inherited culturally by genes: it is built. Just as each of us creates an internal representation of the world around us, we also build theories and concepts about ourselves. patterns can lead us to hate ourselves or, on the contrary, to love each other fully.
We should choose the second option. We must become the main actors in our wonderful stories.
Each of us learned to read, walk and eat healthily, when we get sick, go to the doctor and prescribe medications that cure diseases, however, they rarely teach us to take care of ourselves psychologically, or even more, to love us. .
Many people turn to a psychologist for a consultation with the heartbreaking belief that they are not meant to be happy. Under phrases like “Everything goes wrong for me,” “Everyone ignores me?Or “Every relationship I start is a disaster”. there’s actually an underlying wound, an inner tattoo that could be summed up as “I forgot to love myself. “
On the other hand, it is also curious to know how, when defining and explaining your relationships, it is immediately noticeable that these are very oriented profiles towards others, they are loving people who understand life through care and dedication to others. They believe that simply offering love and showing this selfless affection will bring back the same emotional gift, the same coin, the same energy charge.
In the midst of this dynamic between what he gives and what he hopes to receive in return, the person forgets something very simple: to live. Our existence is not based on this economy of affections in which, as I propose, I also receive. In the midst of this unhealthy attachment to others is our own being, which hopes to be appreciated, liberated and recognized by ourselves.
We cannot forget that immunity from the scourge of sadness or disappointment is achieved by learning to love ourselves, only then will we celebrate, without fear or reservation.
Knowing who we are, recognizing what we are worth and starting to live authentically, nothing better than cleaning the basement of our own mind. The reason? Believe it or not, in this privileged space you will find useless things, “old furniture” that others have put us in and a lot of dust that must be removed by opening new windows.
“One day you get to the bottom, you reach a deadline, and then your personal revolution begins. -Walter laughs
Here’s how to do it. We are convinced that these strategies will be of great use to your personal growth.
Our cleanliness should start by doing something very simple: identify everything we didn’t put in it, which we didn’t choose. Most of these things happened in our childhood, when our own brain had not yet developed adequate mental filters to be critical and analyze what was being transmitted to us.
Finally, in this cleaning process, it is always time to present this basic and essential furniture that will make our own mental basement a soft, beautiful, unique and at the same time healthy space. We are probably talking about the sofa of the self. -esteem, the table of self-confidence, the chairs that define our own values and the carpet with intense colors that define our own dignity and on which no one can walk.
Let’s start building the life we want proud of who we are, happy to have a strong mind and a personality that dares to be the protagonist of its own story.
Images courtesy of Liz Clemments.