People of humble soul and courageous heart captivate, attract those who do not give up, inspire those who know what they want far beyond the number of obstacles that may arise, above all we love those personalities who do not know how to give themselves, and who have done so at some point: they have learned to love themselves.
While it’s valuable to have friends and family with this kind of profile and attitude, it’s even more important to become one of those people, the ones who have the scent of taste, I can and deserve it. But there is. One thing this society in which we often live shows us is that anyone who dares to utter the same phrase aloud will sin with a certain narcissism.
What can you aspire to?-Walter laughs-
Loving oneself is probably the most precious root of our psychological well-being, this dimension is, no more or less, the dimension that guarantees our survival, both physical and emotional, it is also this affection that allows us to endure more or less. the ups and downs of our lives and this complex society that has as many contradictions as we do.
However, sometimes we have a clear feeling that it is self-inflicted, to say aloud that we are worthy and capable of everything, it is little more than an exacerbated gesture of bad taste, in the eyes of many we run the risk of appearing. peedant, selfish and obviously narcissistic.
Let’s see: being altruistic, noble and humble is a good thing and even necessary, but to have good psychological health you have to invest in these other sometimes neglected dimensions: self-esteem, self-confidence, self-love, personal dignity?
Narcissism causes us some rejection just by listening to it. But what if we said there’s a healthy look that we all need one way or another?As curious as it may seem, does each of us come into the world with the need to love ourselves?Factory installed, it’s like a genetic program that then and for various reasons we end up taking in the recycling basket or gazing it doesn’t bother us.
To better understand it you have to think about babies and children 3 or 4 years old, in their behavior there is an essential network of narcissism that seeks exclusively to meet their basic needs, whether physical or emotional. They don’t, from selfishness, they do it first to survive and then as part of their psychological and social development.
Subsequently, this reflex, this instinct, can take three different paths:
These people are not selfish or narcissistic, much less pedantic, they are usually discreet. Generally, they do not speak out, nor do they carry posters that proclaim their virtues or abilities as others would, those who practice the most acute narcissism, the one that feeds on appearances, right? I say a lot but I do little, and I do? If I want something, will I use you to get it?
“There is something worse than death and suffering: lack of self-esteem. – Sondor
People with good self-esteem who love each other bravely and healthily walk in silence and without attracting attention, but always have their eyes on the horizon to achieve their goals, no matter what others are doing. what others do.
On the other hand, a curious thing that we must not forget is that, according to neuroscience, this area of the brain where our existential goals are born and are programmed is the frontal orbital cortex, a structure that in turn is very emotionally related, but mainly to this firm and strong personality type that includes habits, perseverance and personal effort.
Does all this show us, once again, that only brave people and those characterized by a healthy dose of self-love and high self-esteem touch the sky with their fingertips?And no, at no point do you care what others say. , because the energy of triumph always resides in you, in this private corner that we have to deal with every day.
Images courtesy of Liz Clemens.