I love people like this, humble in heart, with a rogue smile and a supportive heart who every day surprise me with their actions, are people who speak and obey, who do not brag, who do not understand exalted egos or hidden lies. I love these magical people camouflaged from normal.
And who wouldn’t like that? However, we are well aware that this type of personality can be counted on with the fingers of one hand, we live in an individualistic society and increasingly oriented outward, so certain exhibitionist behaviors and excesses are common, in which dependence to be admired almost at all times exhausts and drowns.
- Paul-Claude Racamier.
- A famous French psychoanalyst.
- Coined the term “perverse narcissist” several years ago.
- This would certainly be the most extreme version of this profile.
- These are people who not only live focused on their own infallibility and perfection.
- But also exercise persistent harassment to humiliate others and become even greater.
Living subject to this kind of dynamic ends up destroying our mental health, it is necessary to transform our daily relationships. You have to find them, go to those people who do not concentrate their lives in the gallery, but in this secret and privileged place where the person understands himself, integrates wisely and respects others.
A common feature of the chronic narcissist is his tendency to make promises and castles in the air that he then does not sustain Are you addicted to the use of the personal pronoun?At the beginning of each prayer, they make grains of sand from the royal cathedrals and set out to be arrogant architects of their powerful alist universes. They know everything, they’ve seen everything and experienced it all, and if they haven’t, they invent it to keep feeling the glamour.
The funny thing about this type of personality is that we identify them almost instantly, the lies have short legs and vanity has very high eyes, however, sometimes, even seeing from afar their multiple needs and the emptiness of their heart full of cobwebs, it is not so easy to defend itself. It is not easy to live with a chronic narcissist if that character is the parent or partner or partner.
According to an article published in the scientific journal “PsychCentral”, there is an essential aspect that can cure and comfort a person who has just lived an emotional relationship with another that contains these characteristics, is to feel that there are still altruistic people, Beings able to surprise their loved ones without expecting anything in return, because the right people, whatever they seem , are not endangered.
The thing is, they’re discreet, they don’t make noise, they don’t want an audience, they say what’s right, and they know how to act at the right time.
The most daring ego is the germ that inhabits these walls where many are isolated in their vast peninsulas of solitude. We all know a loved one who wears this modern mask where, as an expression of Greek theatre, he inscribes pride and need for attention. know it’s someone.
Perhaps that is why, because we have become accustomed to both individuality and the need for attention, humble acts continue to surprise us.
When a stranger does something spontaneously for someone else, you almost instantly wonder what led him to do that. Similarly, when a friend surprises us with a detail, a favor or a beautiful action, we often say, “I owe you one. “
Many have the principle of reciprocity embedded in the depths of our being, yet these acts must also be accepted with complete transparency without obsessing over what we should and should not do in the future. It is about enjoying this moment, this generous and selfless Act that seeks nothing but to give us happiness.
In fact, these magical people dressed as normal expect nothing in return, because what you do with your heart does not expect reward, the greatest gift is to know that your action has brought a smile, comforted and sown in that trust in the human being. that we should never lose.
We know that false appearances grow like weeds, however, after the need for attention, all these people realize is loneliness and a profound lack of emotional maturity, we will learn to stock up, we don’t need anyone to know what we have. what we are and what we are worth so that we can give our best to others in a selfless way.
Images courtesy of Vladimir Kush, Anne Kirsukov