Nobody likes to hear lies. We don’t like pious lies, nor do they like to decide for us what we need to know or not, whether the truth will hurt us, we have to decide.
People are used to hiding what they do, say or think because they think they will avoid harming others, but no, in fact, there is nothing more heartbreaking than lying, omission and hypocrisy, with them we feel small and vulnerable, and at the same time, there is mistrust and insecurity towards the world.
- There is nothing that breaks us more inside and upsets us as much as they choose for us.
- That betrays our trust.
- Or that assumes that we are unable to tolerate and live certain experiences.
Throughout our lives we suffer and mourn hundreds of situations caused by others. However, all these feelings and emotions are never useless; on the contrary, much of our learning is mediated by pain.
Likes, suffering makes us understand and know each other, understanding that we are strong and that nothing lasts forever, in this way we manage our emotions.
Our life is ours. We must live it however we want and not as others judge. Would we decide for someone I should love and how?No, it’s crazy. It’s unfair to try to decide for others.
To say things face to face is to be sincere, neither more nor less, which is confused with lack of education, tact or caution.
Since since sincerity is a confusing term and everyone has their own version of the story, let’s see something else about it.
Being honest doesn’t mean we have to say everything that comes to mind, suddenly or at any time. To be sincere with judgment, empathy and ethics does not mean inventing reality, but to adapt communication to the moment and to the person.
Sincerity makes us find companions, faithful, integral people, that is, good people. Of course, the intention is often not bad, but you should know that by not telling the truth, you disrespect the “touched” person.
We can’t make decisions for others, because that’s how we’re going to get hurt. Irreversible damage that violates the laws of any strong and balanced relationship.
In fact, by lying to someone, we are depriving them of the opportunity to direct their pain and learn the lesson they need to learn, so it is extremely unfair and abusive.
Sincerity never hurts, what hurts are realities, being honest is always a great gesture, despite everything and others, however, it can happen that someone prefers to live in a fantasy world, without wanting to see reality, in this case everything is respectable.
However, the evil of lying or hiding the truth is that, from there, a thousand truths remain in doubt that break the trust, security, and most powerful feelings of love.
In short, truth is built and lies destroy, each of us is able to assume the reality of what is right for us and, therefore, to solve any damage we may suffer.
We cannot live in the hope that life will be a path of roses for ourselves or others, so whenever we correspond, we must choose to be honest and not deprive people of the opportunity to grow by overcoming the adversities or discomforts of their own existence. .
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