“Did they make us believe this? Great love only happens once, usually before age 30. We haven’t been told that love doesn’t go off and doesn’t come by appointment.
We have been led to believe that each of us is an orange half and that life only makes sense when we find the other half, we have not been informed that we were already born whole and that no one has to take responsibility for completing what we lack.
- They made us believe in a formula called “Two in One”: two people thinking and acting in the same way.
- Because that’s how it works.
- We were not told that this had a name: cancellation and that only individuals with their own personality.
- They are capable of having a healthy relationship.
They have made us believe that marriage is obligatory and that external desires must be suppressed. They made us believe that the beautiful and the thin are more loved; that there is only one formula for happiness, the same for all, and those who escape it are doomed to marginalization.
We have not been told that these formulas are wrong, that they frustrate people, alienate them and that we can try other alternatives.
No one will tell you, everyone will have to find out for themselves and then, when you’re really in love with yourself, you can be very happy and fall in love with someone.
Do we live in a world where we hide to make love?Although violence is practiced in broad daylight.
? John Lennon?
How many times do we think our love was unbalanced, how many times have we given much more than we have received?
The normal thing, in fact, is that we cannot conceive of love without sacrifice, without pain and without submission. We made the mistake of working more on love for others than on self-esteem. We create crazy loves and unbalance, as a result, say goodbye to patience, self-know-how and hope.
We often expect miracles in a relationship. We desire and hope for love, but love is not expected, never leave love for tomorrow.
Don’t do with love what a child does with his balloon; when you ignore it and when you lose it crying?
Saying goodbye with capital letters takes a lot of effort and above all a lot of pain. In fact, what is often presented to us is the fear of having to say goodbye. It’s hard to admit, but, we’ve lost ground, and we don’t know what to do.
When we love, we must not lose our individuality and change the way we see the world or live in it, that is, love feeds not on submission, but on freedom.
It is about preferring rather than what is necessary, growing together, we must be what we want to be (oranges, pears, bananas, mangoes, etc. ), but always whole and complete, without needing the other half.
If that doesn’t work, if the relationship can’t be divided between two different and unique people who enjoy their individual and common life, it’s better to say goodbye and set aside something that never belonged to us.
“If love were a tree, the roots would be your self-esteem. The more you love each other, the more fruit your love will bear to others and the more lasting in time.
? Walter Riso?
For this reason, we must learn to say “Do I love myself?”before “I love you”; only then will we know true love. Love is not a game or a competition, because it’s not about winning or losing, it’s about growing up together.
Emphasizing others about the importance of our personal care is very complicated, however, this is the only way not to leave our hearts empty, not to feel lost and grieving for life.
We must sow our field with the seeds of self-esteem, water it with love and protect the fruits of storms, this will allow us to nurture our love for others in a healthy way.
Therefore, before “thinking of loving someone”, we have to ask ourselves if we really love ourselves; it is the only way to create lasting and unbreakable emotional ties.