My best friends can count on the fingers of one hand. They are few, but they are great, with sincere feelings and no two senses. Is it an accomplice, altruistic friendship that does not know blackmail, that is offered freely to encourage?, to make my life more complete?
How many friends do you have?
- There are those who pride themselves on having many friends.
- Names that they collect on social networks.
- People they barely know and yet they are the ones who always offer you one in each of your posts.
Good friends aren’t just names and images on our mobile phones, they’re people who listen to our words and know how to interpret our actions.
They are lives that fit into our empty corners, voices that fill our spaces in bad times and in bad times, are laughter that puts into perspective the problems and the people with which we build our days.
However, how to define good friends? Don’t think about favors. Friendship should not be based solely on “one day you give me, the next I give you”. Sometimes, in addition to support, fun or mutual help, a good friendship, a GREAT friendship, also rests. about silence, space and time.
Let’s think about it
This certainly happened to you at some point. Be in a meeting with other people and feel true discomfort when there is silence in the group.
That’s when we make these empty, hollow comments that alleviate the emptiness of words, which examine faces without really knowing what to do.
It’s something that doesn’t just happen with strangers, there are times when we experience the same discomfort with some family members or colleagues.
Is it as if silence opens the door to those silent thoughts that scare us? “Does the person judge me ??,” What does she think of me?
This doesn’t happen with good friends. It could also be said, and by way of reflection, that people practice very little the value of silence.
Where souls rest in peace, where complicity acquires its authentic meaning. We are people who do not need words to be united, to feel good. Silences are comfortable with the people we love because we let ourselves be ourselves, in all our authenticity, without being judged.
Silence joins hearts and relaxes our minds
“But what about your life?You’re gone!?
Some of your friendships can be like this, did you miss a day?Lack of communication? For no reason, simply because you wanted to or because you don’t need to be in constant contact and complaints are slowly popping up.
There are people who don’t understand that kind of thing. There are those who think that friendship is news that we need to “update on a daily basis”, where we have to communicate everything we do and think.
When the pressure of compulsion appears, one feels a little harassed, for those who do not respect a time of intimacy and even disconnection do not understand the true value of friendship.
There are people who, for personal or professional reasons, walk away months or even years, however, when they meet, the magic of complicity that so warms our hearts still exists, is as if time has not passed, because the feeling remains the same.
Has this happened to you?
We could say that the fundamental problem is that many people do not adequately control loneliness, their emotions, or respect personal spaces.
Do we all have or have we had these friendships that need to be in constant contact to share a thought, a fear, an anxiety?And, in fact, we used to give everything we had to serve them.
Gradually we realized that this person had little ability to control his own problems, to the point of projecting his fears and negativity into others.
And we certainly give everything for them, but with one limit: that they respect our personal spaces, our identity and our emotional balance.
However, people don’t have to live with the stones that others find their own way, because doing this, by joining these problems with our own, will make it very difficult to move on.
True friendships should not be heavy or toxic, they must harmonize our lives as travel companions, confidants who know how to respect spaces, times and silences, good friends always live on the most authentic side of our hearts.