I love you as I love the stars in heaven; I know they are not mine but they illuminate my life and my dreams, I like attachment better because you make my whole world look more on your side, because it adapts to my corners, because you draw paths on the maps that I want to pass through.
It’s love without attachment. They are relationships where there are no blind dependencies, and where each member is able to respect the common spaces and personal development of the loved one, contributing to a full enrichment of reciprocity.
- On certain occasions.
- The word? Raise one or the other non-concordance.
- We cannot deny that loving someone is wanting to be with that person at every moment.
- To worry.
- To want.
- To think every second of that face.
- In that voice.
- In that essence that is part of us.
Love has a bit of obsession, at the same time as it needs it, it is normal, especially in the early stages, now we are talking about attachment in its straightest sense when we somehow lose our own identity and the inner balance of that person.
We leave no spaces for the development and personal freedom of each individual, that is where mistrust arises and even the need for control.
Linking emotional attachment to addiction is not an exaggeration. Think about those blind passions where we need to have our loved one at all times. At a time when we don’t have it on our side, the world collapses, we suspect and we develop a need to control our partner. It’s a risk.
It is important to be able and know how to live without the other person, we cannot be adrift when we do not have our beloved by our side for a few days, if there is confidence there is no reason to develop these irrational fears.
We must learn to live with ourselves and feel satisfied, safe and happy with who we are in order to establish a healthy relationship without negative attachments. He likes it, but he doesn’t have to.
Love does not serve us if we understand it as suffering, if we see it inhabited by those shadows that mask us from the fear of being abandoned, the fear of being betrayed or the fact that we depend on someone to the point of becoming puppets without identity.
We know that these ideas are easy to read and understand, but that doesn’t mean that, even knowing, we don’t fall into such a relationship. In love no one is in control, but if you fall into a situation with these characteristics, it is your responsibility to know how to react when you see it.
This will be the time to practice emotional detachment so that we can walk with greater freedom, safety, wisdom, and the ability to love with integrity and without fear.
Images courtesy of Babs tarr, Lauri Blank.