I don’t know about you, but I often miss you when I remember certain people, although I don’t want you to come back to my life. This feeling is quite common when we have dysfunctional or poorly resolved relationships.
When we go through these kinds of relationships we feel hurt, hurt, anyway, emotionally shocked, there are people who even get physically hurt, the thing is that when this happens to us it interrupts our evolution and we have to make a superhuman effort to get back to being well.
- It’s not an easy process to understand where and how we’re contributing to the breakdown of a relationship.
- But no one is just a victim and not even just a culprit.
- We lack clarity as to how everything we’re going through is going to interfere with our lives from there.
- And that often interferes a lot.
- Especially in future relationships.
Sucede. Al out of nowhere something reminds us of that person with which we had an ill-resolved relationship, that is why we miss and want to call to know how life is going, if dreams go, chatting, whatever, but we are repressed, because we know that this person cannot bring anything positive to our life at that time. We gave up. We know deep down that things will not be as they used to be, never will be, time has passed and with it everything that could work.
As much as we don’t want to admit it, we feel the weight of these inappropriate relationships: at one time or another it always arrives, we feel this need to mitigate the discontent caused by the absence of this person who was once valued for us, but who gave up our lives because we decided to prioritize our well-being, or because the situation was already unsustainable, or simply because we were separated by separate paths.
What is changing is that we do not want anything or anyone to be present in our lives again, that helps us define what is right for us, decide what we want now and avoid making the same mistakes as in the past.
Every relationship has two sides, we can all learn, that it ends does not mean that we have not had happy moments that lead us to positive feelings, however, life is made of balance and even with good memories it must be clear that all this is part of the past and that there have also been negative situations, which today is no longer worth saving.
As we constantly evolve, we become increasingly aware that perhaps that person we lived with today in a cycle of our lives would be unsuitable for us, it could bring us several even greater problems than we have already faced.
It’s common to feel uncomfortable because we still remember someone who hurt us, but we need to understand that every learning is valid and makes us grow, even if the relationship has created trauma or bad feelings in our lives.
Human beings are constantly building, and if all the people we are connected to contribute one way or another to our growth, to our evolution, it is not just the “good” people who remain by our side and people. of our coexistence today. No, no, no, no, no, not everyone interferes, so today those of us who keep only in our memories and memories have certainly helped to make us who we are. That’s why we also owe them our thanks.