You may miss and remember some people, but you don’t want them to come back to your life, this feeling is often shared between people who were part of our lives but with those who end up creating dysfunctional relationships.
After all, a dysfunctional relationship turns out to be negative and destructive to our evolution and development (i. e. , who is or was emotionally, cognitively and behaviorally inadequate). It can be difficult for us to identify how the relationship has affected our lives and we can see some of the shortcomings of the relationship, but it is not entirely clear to us what points have failed in our exchanges.
- Do you know that feeling? Suddenly you remember someone.
- You might even want to look for that person.
- Find out how they are and try to get back a moment or a feeling that that relationship has given you.
- Yet you get repressed.
- Because you know that in fact nothing positive can be added to your life right now.
- There is not even anything to guarantee that it will be the same.
- It will never be.
- Time had already helped to change everything until it no longer works.
So, in this article, we’ll discuss some of these issues and discuss whether it’s normal to lose and remind some people, even if we don’t want them back. We’ll see more about that below.
From time to time, we must mitigate the displeasure caused by the absence of someone we once loved so much, but who left our lives either because we decided to prioritize our well-being, or because the situation has reached such an extent that it has exploded, or simply by separate paths guided by the passage of life.
Remembering oneself and being surprised is not bad, first of all, you must be clear that not everything is white on black, and that we have a whole palette of colors that fill our relationships with hues.
I mean, yes, being sick at home but not wanting something or someone to be present in our daily lives is as normal as it is healthy. Among many reasons it helps us determine and become aware of what really makes us feel good.
We can remember an old love, an old friendship or someone we had a relationship with that might have been, but it wasn’t. Why invalidate our feelings and our nostalgia? Failure to do so is the first step: remembering and failing is perfectly understandable.
Perhaps this relationship would bring us something rewarding for us, material or not, and then it is normal for it to stay in our memory and miss all the good stuff. However, if we put the positive and the negative on the scale, sometimes the scale has tilted to the second side, which also deserves our recognition.
We need to talk about the same point that each person and relationship often has its own time and space, its own development, and the phases that follow. It’s true and it’s not bad, as we’ve repeated so far, it’s a natural thing.
In this sense, we realize that perhaps this person with which we have connected for so long in the cycle of our lives, or even for a short period of time, today would be insufficient for us, because it would bring us problems, perhaps even unresolved, with what we would have to deal with. Negotiate.
The hypothetical situations that we could comment on are infinite and as varied as the number of people and moments that exist, so, at this point, we invite you to reflect and explore in depth the sensations you feel with home-damage, which bring you memories. of a distant relationship, if they are good, if they are bad, in which direction the scale weighs.
We’re used to being called a ‘toxic person’. For all those who have made us suffer in one way or another, when these people appear in our memory, they torment us and surprise us by showing us that we lack something negative, toxic or toxic to ourselves However, as we have already said, there are many shades of color in relationships besides black and white.
Each person and each relationship gives us something, even if it is something that we end up seeing as something bad, in that sense, we must understand that every learning is valid and adds something, even if the relationship has created a void at some point. in our lives.
Let us not forget that the people who feed our souls are not only those with which we stay forever, because everything has its time and its place to happen, even if in the end it is only in our memories and memories.