Our nature allows us to feel and, therefore, we strive to build walls around us to hide our ”self” more deeply: they do not allow us to feel the emotions, feelings and every experience as it is. When we feel fragile and vulnerable, we turn to reason and turn away from our being.
We have been building these walls since we were children, whereas in many situations we do not feel worthy of affection, in the face of fears and emotional suffering we close ourselves, trying to adapt to a world that terrorizes us, considering that it is full of dangers.
- We have learned that when we show our weaknesses and difficulties.
- We end up suffering a lot.
- Do we believe this? To new experiences.
- It can bring sadness.
- Anguish.
- Failures.
- Disappointments and disappointments in love.
- However.
- Let’s get close? This is not the solution.
“We tend to separate the mind from emotions. We are so used to letting the mind dominate us that we forget our feelings and our bodies. See how many times you start a sentence with the word I think, instead of feeling?. – Elisabeth Kubler Ross
Through the walls that we build around us we learn a repertoire of excuses to hide who we are, we learn automatisms, adapting to existing prejudices and stereotypes, trying to adapt to our environment, we believe that there is a normal way of being and acting. , and we have to get as close as possible to him.
The belief that there is an adequate way to behave is what prevents us from being who we really are, so we constantly struggle with our feelings, with what we want, with which it motivates and excites us. not acknowledging our feelings.
We close ourselves in such a way that we become insensitive to injustice and to the people we love. We act automatically and completely lose the essence of our being, our love, and our goodness.
? Closing feelings is letting life go on without us, because we have lost our illusion, hope and even love.
As we’ve seen, there’s a reason why we won’t afford to feel. You’ve tried it in a lot of situations, haven’t you? He fought himself to become insensitive to something you didn’t want to live, trying to avoid pain is what leads us to continue to suffer.
The greatest strength that resides in us is undoubtedly to let ourselves be felt and experienced, we do not want to feel, we are afraid and we are stuck or lost to this state, we fight against our own feelings.
It is necessary to live unpleasant situations, because they are part of our growth, maturity and happiness develop through pain, anguish and sadness, we learn experiences, whether pleasant or not, in this way we value the good and beneficial in our lives.
“There is no luck or bad luck in the world, but the comparison between one state and another is everything. Only those who have experienced misfortune can experience supreme happiness. Is it necessary to have wanted to die, my friend, to know how beautiful?and beautiful life is?-Alexander Dumas-
We generally confuse vulnerability with weakness, vulnerability is part of letting ourselves feel what we need, being honest, and accepting that there are many things that affect us and that we are not fragile.
When do we accept our vulnerability? Experience the feelings and emotions that trigger interaction with others. It’s a natural state, so why are we hiding under a mask that doesn’t represent us and makes us unhappy?Get out of this hiding place, decide to face the world and show you what you really are like.
“What would be enough if it were openly? -Carl Rogers-
The only way to get to know us and develop ourselves personally is to show our vulnerabilities, for this it takes a lot of courage, authenticity, maturity and great inner strength, when you show yourself in this natural way, you get the same response from your environment: sincere bonds based on love, not appearances.