There are songs that say that life cannot be understood without a good coffee with friends, perhaps because around it arise the best conversations and the most useful tips, in fact, when I have to make an important decision, these cafes are pure energy. : it is in them that I listen and that I let themselves be heard, although in the end I am always responsible for deciding.
And anyone who says a coffee says it at any other time surrounded by friends, because the contact with the relationships we have is very beneficial for emotional health and helps us manage complicated situations that we have to face at some point in life.
- In that sense.
- Leave ours? Expressing how you feel to people in our nearest social circle has different advantages.
- Especially in conflicting circumstances where we feel really confused: there are many difficult paths that open up in our lives.
- And walking together gains in stability.
“The tree of life is communication with friends; fruit, rest and self-confidence. ?-Francisco de Quevedo-
The first great advantage of being heard is, without a doubt, being able to listen from another perspective: problems afflict us, pressure us and bring us a huge weight of responsibility, therefore a look that does not give the impression that we can help clarify doubts on the subject.
Imagine that you are currently working and, at least to some extent, you are enjoying your work, however, there are some reasons why you would leave your work, such as being closer to your family, in this situation they offer you a job that has nothing to do with your area of knowledge, but that will allow you to be as close to your loved ones as possible What decision would you make?
It is very difficult to be at the center of all this and understand what one decision or another entails, so we look for those who are always close to us, those who know how to help us: they continue to give us their point of view, making us see other pros and cons that we do not see in our particular position. In the end, we were able to take all the positions and decide for ourselves.
Is there a chance of getting every decision wrong?Since risking change always means that something can be lost, and that is a condition that we have to accept, therefore, here is the second great advantage: the cloudiest the sky becomes in the face of a problem, the more we will need the strength and wisdom of others.
How many times have we wanted a loved one to listen to us when we were basically looking for the strength we lacked to make a decision?I say yes, but sometimes I need a push, a hug, a few words of support: think whatever happens, there’ll be someone else out there.
“The one who loses the most by not being able to listen is the person himself. -Jorge González Moore-
That is, in an individual decision, there is also someone else’s strength because their loving advice reminds us that above all he likes us and only tries to help us achieve what is best for us.
The truth is that behind the premise, I listen to everyone, but I decide that there is a reality in which a person’s life choices can depend on many people, but the consequences fall only on ourselves.
It is absolutely advantageous, as we have already said, to let others tell us their opinion on the options we have, but we are the exclusive owners of our actions that we finally carry out: no one will be responsible for something that will fall alone. over us, no one will assume the mistakes of our decisions and no one will walk with the weight of the chosen path.
“Because no one can know of you. No one can grow up for you. No one can look for you. No one can do for you what you have to do for yourself. Existence does not admit representatives. ? -Jorge Bucay-
So, with this in mind, don’t refuse to listen even if you disagree with what you’re saying or if you come to think they’re not kind opinions. It’s good to open your mind to other eyes, as long as you’re able not to lose your eyes completely: you know what you need and how you need it, and only you can live your way. , decide for yourself and act for yourself.