Google, the world’s largest news network, said the most frequently asked question in your browser worldwide is: “Why don’t I have a partner?Millions of searches are conducted every day to try to find answers to the most varied questions. But still, this is the most frequently asked question.
While the telecommunications revolution is now easier than ever to connect with others, it seems that many human beings, especially young people, have great difficulty finding a person to call a partner.
“When a man finds his partner, does society begin?-Ralph Waldo Emerson?
People search for dating pages, enter their data and, in seconds, thousands of options appear, given their characteristics and tastes, however, it seems that all this technology is not working in the long run, people are lonely because they can’t establish themselves. Transcendent and rewarding relationships with a couple, why?
Some research indicates data that could be considered disruptive, such as the result of a demographic study conducted in Japan to learn in detail what the sexual behavior of people in your country is.
Research has shown that 40% of men under the age of 34 have never had sex, but that wasn’t all, seven out of ten men under the age of 34 had never had a double relationship.
You’d think the Japanese are different from the rest of the world, but not quite. In the United States, a similar survey yielded very similar results. This survey, conducted by psychologists Jean Twenge, Ryne Sherman and Brooke Wells, showed that only 7% of young people between the age of 20 and 30 have multiple sex in a week.
The great paradox of our time is that communication has never been so simple, but at the same time, therefore impossible, we have extraordinary technological devices at our fingertips: we can talk to people from any country, at any time, as if our neighbors were, however, we end up losing our communication skills.
People seem less and less able to communicate what they feel or think, having communication skills means being able to express what’s in your inner world, but also listening to what the other has to say, and it seems that those skills have actually diminished.
They imposed on the world the idea that we should think only of ourselves, let others think of themselves in turn. Let everyone defend their own and not meddle in others. These often encouraged ideas have resulted in a world made up of many islands, and in these conditions there is no place for love.
The contradiction is that everyone wants a couple, who no longer see the same as someone with whom an intimacy can be built in the broadest sense of the word, on the contrary, is perceived, at first glance, as a satisfaction that cannot be achieved. get lost, something else you shouldn’t give up.
“Communication has never been so simple and at the same time so impossible. “
Another idea that has settled among people is that love equals a certain weakness. It seems that many think that love and marriage are two concepts that should not go hand in hand. We can have a couple “go out”, have sex, or a partner for social gatherings, but not to build a great love.
As a result, relationships are established and broken with overwhelming ease, couples are not the result of dialogue, empathy and time, but of anguish, necessity and momentum, so the bonds being built are very fragile, they are also selfish bonds, where everyone wants to make the most of others.
And people will ask Google why they’re alone?They find millions of answers, but none of them really tell them the truth. When asked “why I don’t have a partner,” a social network user gave a concise and masterful answer. She said: “You can answer the question of yourself: the reasons are your bad social tools and therefore your low self-confidence.