To be happy sometimes we need very little, however, these little ones are not crumbs that others let feed an interested love, this little piece must fill our souls, it must give us dignity as a people and, therefore, we will never settle. by the pieces that others give us as if they were royal palaces.
We know that the current approaches between positive psychology and spirituality are at their peak, where they emphasize the need to learn to value small things, or how to be happy with little, only with what is needed. Ideas like “happiness is realizing that nothing is very important “can certainly confuse us a little.
“By the time you settle for less than you deserve, will you get even less than you’re happy. ?Mauren Dowd-
Everything has nuances and, in these kinds of subjects, the nuances are great. First of all, you have to be clear that it’s not a good idea to settle for less than we deserve. Sometimes we are convinced that “the minimum is enough “It can make us fail in secluded gardens”. There are those who say that the earth is good, that sooner or later the seeds will germinate and that spectacular flowers will sprout.
However, little by little our life becomes a reception room of dreams that will never come, goals that will never be accomplished, flowers that will never germinate. To settle for little is not to live in crumbs, and happiness will never be “convinced that nothing is very important. “In fact, it’s quite the opposite: you have to be clear about what’s important.
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Mental health professionals often complain that current models for treating depression don’t always work, programs fail, and often the emphasis on combining drug treatment and psychotherapy offers an improvement that, in many cases, is temporary.
Dr. Eric Maisel, a psychotherapist and author of a long list of books on depression and emotions, says that some aspects need to be reformulated, many psychiatrists today continue to focus, almost exclusively, on analyzing the symptomatic condition of the patient, without using resources or time. to find the true root of the problem.
Antidepressants are prescribed as if pills were offered to cure the pain of life. We need something else, more concentration and fewer labels where everyone is treated equally.
According to Maisel, what we suffer today, to a greater or lesser extent, is a deep and devastating existential anguish. We forget our purpose in life, to the point of not valuing our emotions, our thoughts, or our decisions. Our routine is like a foggy scene, where nothing really makes sense.
We can say, almost without fear of making mistakes, that we are getting used to living with much less than we deserve, because it is not about being happy with little, it is about knowing what our priorities are, what our goals are, what our values are. are and, only then, learn to listen to this inner music. Without the noise around you, no artifice.
Imagine, for a moment, a person trying to cross a river with a backpack behind his back, the sun is intense, ruthless and sometimes blind. She doesn’t quite know where she wants to go, she just feels like she has to cross that river anyway, even if the backpack you’re carrying is too heavy and can barely move forward. He’s got to do something.
“The greatest temptation for the human being is to settle for very little. “Thomas Merton
Our protagonist is forced to stop and make decisions, the person takes the backpack off his back and opens it: there are stones, many stones, bigger ones and smaller ones, the bigger ones are the most beautiful and the most spectacular: they represent your values, your needs, your virtues, the things that you love the most and that identify you.
Miners, in turn, refer to the needs of others, to the concerns others have for him, to criticism, to lies, to the obligations to fulfill to satisfy others, to be what they want. strong decision, and our protagonist does it: choose to take all the uncomfortable little stones out of his backpack.
When he does that, when he pulls it out one by one, he realizes something amazing: that there are thousands and that they all triple the weight of his larger stones, his favorites, when he finishes and put the backpack back on, he is surprised by the lightness he feels. When you walk again, the road seems much clearer. He feels strong, realizes that he has the courage and more desire to cross this river.
The stones he now wears on his back are very small, they are great, no doubt, but his beauty is so great that they only inspire him every day with his shapes and colors, little by little and thanks to his wonderful influence, he remembers his path and his destiny. You won’t hesitate to stick to it.
We also have to start doing that. Let’s leave our weights behind and keep the little sense, the enrichment.