I appreciate everything I have overcome because after every abyss I have crossed I have created a bridge of learning and valuable experiences, now I take a deep breath and look to the future without fear, because there are only chapters already written, pages that I have written to create better stories, better stories, in which I position myself as a true protagonist.
Many of us have left behind several experiences, some good and others less, an ancient Chinese proverb says that before we are a dragon we must suffer like an ant, in fact, beyond what one might think, it is not obligatory to suffer to be happy or to understand what life is like. Still, we cannot deny that there is suffering that brings us valuable lessons.
- Personal improvement is one of the best known areas of psychology and where the humanist school is mainly concentrated.
- A current that is integrated into existentialism to reveal.
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- That people are dynamic.
- Changing and that in each variation there is one aspect that we must always look after: our own coherence.
Thus, in the event that fate presents an unexpected setback and we are forced to face this difficulty, it is our responsibility to react knowing how to decide, reflecting on what surrounds us and awakening our potential. In this inevitable process of crisis, we must never abandon our values.
Rollo May, one of the most eminent existentialist psychologists of the twentieth century, said that the more we get lost, the more we run, in fact, sometimes we are surprised by phenomena or circumstances.
There are times when the unexpected comes with its clouds and tremors under our feet, in those moments fear paralyzes us and we act without thinking: we act instinctively, panicked and in a hasty and unbalanced way.
It is difficult to deal with these vital Gordian knots if our minds are unclear, if our inner world is as chaotic as the one around us.
In these circumstances, we will do better if we choose a calm and thoughtful approach that suits our principles, values and needs. So one thing we need to clarify in the first place is what personal overtaking really means.
This dimension is not just about dealing with an obstacle, it is not just about facing a difficulty or escaping the worst of problems, self-improvement is first and foremost learning. It means knowing how to activate one’s own resources in difficult times, how to take advantage of what is presented to us, it is about being open, being receptive and reacting to choose change over fear, progress over immobility and stagnation.
I take a deep breath and thank you for everything I have overcome because I love who I am, I love my current version, I accept where I am now, because this is where I want to be, it is true that yesterday was difficult and left me with consequences, but does any growth imply a transformation, an alteration of psychological problems, emotional tides?
Dr. Michael Unghar, a family therapist and professor of social work at Dalhousie University in Canada, is a leading expert in the field of resilience.
What he explains in his book Change Your World: The Science of Resilience and The True Path To Success is that sometimes something has to happen outside to activate that inner potential, which is resilience.
Any personal growth, according to this expert, requires the enlightenment of this dimension, for this it should be noted that this skill is like a dance, something dynamic that transforms us and, in turn, transforms everything around us. Does that really mean?
It’s easy to understand. If I’m grateful for all I’ve overcome, it’s because I dared to change external things that didn’t make me happy (a wedding, a stressful job, etc. ).
On the other hand, I’ve changed too. Now I am a more assertive person, someone who decides more correctly, without fear and knowing what he wants at all times.
I face tomorrow without fear. Not because I believe that fate has the color and taste of happiness, but I go without anguish, because I know that now I have better resources to face all that comes, face difficulties and embrace luck.
I appreciate everything I have overcome because, thanks to what happened, I am the person who now smiles at the world, who looks at the horizon to set new goals, new dreams every day.
So let’s learn how to manage everything that is presented to us, with hope, with resilience and by activating these exceptional resources that we all have.