I’m not a fruit, I’m a person, I have everything I need to feel complete and live a full life. My happiness depends on me, not someone else. I’m not half the orange looking for another.
I do not believe in fairy tales, nor in enchanted princes and princesses; I believe in myself and my opportunities to be happy.
- “I don’t care if you like him very much.
- I.
- But you like me more and more every day.
- Isn’t love a matter of quantity?” -Walter laughs-.
Idealizing a person with thoughts like “Are we made for each other?”, Does a lot of harm to couples over time, because as soon as difficulties arise, one realizes that, in fact, the claim to make us each other is not so real. , leading to dissatisfaction and frustration.
Couples are not perfect; Problems will inevitably arise over time. Sometimes problems originate from differences in age, education, culture and even religion, but one must accept the other person as it is, so that the differences are not to discuss but to learn.
The great mistake of the myth of half the orange is to consider that we are incomplete beings, and that we can only attain fullness by finding true love, which will allow us to achieve happiness, but making all our happiness dependent on a romantic relationship is a great mistake and will eventually prevent the person from being happy.
Happy people, whether they have a partner or not, we are all complete people, we do not lack a piece or half to be able to achieve what we want.
In fact, the success of a relationship is that both people are complete, independent and happy. Without a doubt, the love between two oranges, two apples, two strawberries is much better than between two halves. It’s about sharing life, good and bad. and enjoy each other with their virtues and flaws.
Loving oneself is an unfinished business for many people, but it’s a fundamental thing. Here are some tips to keep you entertained:
We often torture ourselves by seeing what we are doing wrong and feeling guilty, but we must put bad things aside and appreciate the sheer number of qualities we have. Think about what you do right and make a list to look at every day and remember how wonderful you are.
“If you live to please, everyone will love you except yourself. “
-Paulo Coelho-
Throughout life, many people seek to influence what we do and the choices we make, but we must stop trying to please everyone, because it is impossible.
Sometimes it is necessary to put a limit on others so that they do not influence our feelings. Feeling good does not require the approval of others, whether friends, family or partners.
The only approval you need is yours
We are unique beings, different from each other and the comparison produces nothing but misfortunes, you are unique, you have weaknesses, defects, qualities and strengths that no one has, your culture, your education, your experiences form a unique combination that makes you completely different from others.
What will they say? Or the reactions of others, but your opinion is valuable and you have to express it, you just have to be respectful and speak for sure, so that others listen to us without offending them, sometimes your ideas will be different, but that doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be expressed.
“They made us believe that each of us is an orange half, and that life only makes sense when we find the other half. We have not been told that we were born whole, that no one in our lives deserves to take responsibility for completing what we lack. -John Lennon-