To say that we do not need people to live is to deny the evidence Do we all want to have, every day of our lives, our loved ones by our side, enjoy life with them, share moments, joys and sorrows?
However, the word “necessity” must be based on a healthy bond that is not drowned, and which, above all, allows personal development and space for the other person. We all need those we love, but we must protect our individuality and give it to others as well. I want someone who prefers to live with me, not someone who needs it.
- I have learned that I can smile without you.
- That I can walk my own ways without following in your footsteps.
- Grow without having to challenge myself.
- I do not want to put my happiness in your pockets.
- I want to offer myself free for you.
- Join our happiness and live in harmony.
We know that this kind of phrase looks great in many books, in textbooks about mature and happy romantic relationships. We know it’s hard to say I don’t need you, but I prefer you.
However, it is only a matter of knowing how to harmonize and build. To understand that to be in a couple is not to subtract, that to live is to add every day and never wake up in the morning with the feeling that “something is missing”, that one loses his identity in favor of the other.
To be in a relationship is to be able to be happy as one is, individually, to understand that someone is chosen to win in happiness. Growing up as a people. Because if we don’t feel the unity and balance on both sides, we’re not a team. Are we losing, are we getting worn out?
If I love someone, I want them to be with me. I want a firm commitment and your presence in my life, and why not say: I need you every day to show me your affection through reciprocity, the magic of those little details that build whole lives.
To say that I need reciprocity in love is not to be dependent is to want to receive what we invest. Dependency relationships now need as much as themselves, and even more. The need, in this case, is synonymous with domination, attachment and non-equality.
You could say that the narrow thread of happiness sometimes depends on this simple difference that involves so many complications to live as a couple, let’s look at these points in detail.
We love him so much, we almost completely diluted ourselves to be loved. Yours is mine, your worries are mine, your pains are also the feathers of my heart.
Okay, there’s no denying that being in a relationship involves commitment, and that commitment requires solving problems together, facing difficulties, and taking care of each other. Should there be a limit to that? Sure.
To be happy, in fact, we don’t need much, just the love, intimacy, respect and complicity that is part of everyday life in two desired and familiar looks, who need something beyond all this is because they have their own needs that they expect others to meet or solve.
Anyone who is full of voids or needs that have not been overcome is looking for saviors, looking for angels full of affection who are able to give everything for nothing, that’s when we end up breaking into pieces to fill all these chasms. ? And in the end, we’re never full again.
It is often said that if we try to heal a broken heart we can also end up in pieces, so isn’t it good to keep this idea that with you the person can change, that you will make them happy?we ourselves are not happy, it is very difficult for someone else to spend the night.
Love is about being humble, allowing it. It is to want the best for the other, to seek also one’s happiness. It is to build between two being one, it is to live with integrity being oneself, by the hand of the beloved.
Images courtesy of Mila Marquis and Pascal Campion.