When we talk about difficult emotions, we mean those that do not appear in their purest form, that is, most, as when you feel hatred and love at the same time (which almost always happens), or when compassion is mixed with anger. or anger sadly.
Sometimes everything generally feels like discomfort, but it is not clear which emotions trigger a certain emotional state.
- On certain occasions.
- Especially if we are not used to it.
- We have to work hard to identify them.
- Translate them into thoughts and express them aloud.
- Each of these steps can be very complex.
- But they are all necessary to get out of an emotional state that we don’t want.
Strictly speaking, there are not enough exact words or words to express difficult emotions. Perhaps that is why poetry exists: a polysmic language that reflects the inaccuracy inherent in the feelings and emotions that inhabit us. Beyond artistic manifestations, sometimes we have to find ways to communicate.
“Your intelligence may be confusing, but your feelings will never lie” – Roger Ebert-
A reflection on the complexity of the process of calibrating and expressing emotions can be found in the fact that certain words cannot be translated from one language to another, there is no way to translate their meaning from one language to another, precisely because they have a mark of complexity or are very associated with a particular social context. Here are some examples:
Often, when it comes to translating, we have no way to transport these strange terms from one language to another without increasing the size of the text, we have not found a way to identify, translate or express difficult emotions, we do not know the word that makes us uncomfortable because the inability to name something also prevents us from dealing with it.
Basically, we are used to encapsulating our emotions into five fundamental groups: joy, sadness, anger, fear and disgust. Sometimes what we feel is exactly one of those basic emotions. However, there are also times when they are too global to allow us. To be precise, our fear implies disgust or our anger is terrifying.
What generates difficult emotions is the fact that they mix with other emotions seemingly very different from each other, in order to identify them the first skill that comes into play is to make our thinking more flexible, we must understand that we cannot find a way to name them, because they do not correspond to categorical feelings.
We must also get rid of the temptation to evaluate emotions from an ethical point of view: there are no bad or good emotions, however, in relation to their consequences, an emotion can be very good or very bad.
What will ultimately decide is how we handle that emotion and the energy associated with it, that is, an emotion cannot be adtored from our actions, it will never be able to justify them, on the other hand, it is important to abandon the idea of reconciling the irreconcilable. A sad joy is a sad joy, and it is not obligatory for one of them to prevail over the other.
Expression frees, as well as the impossibility of saying compresses and accentuates, so saying in words what we feel enriches communication with others, also improving the quality of our internal dialogue, promotes understanding, understanding, empathy and inner and outer peace. .
To give voice to these emotions, it is necessary to perform an analysis exercise that separates the emotions that gave rise to the global state, as well as the influence of each one.
If it is an irritated joy, then we are talking about joy and anger, when it comes to a disgusting and terrifying sadness, three basic emotions are involved. Certainly, each of these concepts may be more precise: anger can be irritation, anger, anger. and a thousand more things, it’s important to find the word that best suits how we feel.
Here is an exercise that completes this process of identifying, translating and expressing difficult emotions: trying to build a phrase from the beginning?When? Try to apply this phrase to all the emotions involved. Finally, reread what you’ve written and integrate it inside. It is an interesting exercise that can lead to poetry, with a better understanding of our emotional state.