From small, little by little we forge our identity. Sometimes we get carried away by the strong personalities of others, until finally we can discover our own identity. A unique identity, ours, that we will nurture in a positive way until the end of our days.
But what happens when we don’t know who we are? Doubts surround us, we feel insecure and we begin to feel that we exist without existing. A series of thoughts that lead to emptiness and terrifying loneliness.
- Some of the momentous questions around us at a time when we doubt our own identity are: who am I.
- What do I do with my life?Where am I going?.
We have been through several crises throughout our lives. This is not to say that they are negative, but quite the opposite.
Crises can help us find the right path and strengthen our personality.
There are certain ages when it is difficult to get out of these times of crisis:
? The stage of adolescence: a complicated stage, where everyone becomes an adult, here there are several crises of identity, because each one seeks himself, the person rebels against everything and against all, speaks ill, gets carried away by friendships?All of this has an explanation: find out who she really is.
? When you turn 40: a time when we’ve had a lot of experiences and there’s a turning point. We grow old and have a strong desire to get the young people back behind us, and we get lost in a crisis where we often don’t know why we’re doing what we’re doing.
These are two of the most common crises. The two critical stages of life in which one feels lost, empty, without expectations and disoriented. Two steps in which this crisis may be necessary to reaffirm ourselves as people.
In these two steps we’ve seen, there’s one thing that converges on both: emotional instability.
When the crisis occurs in adolescence it is generally accepted, in addition, we are still children and that is why we act as such, but what happens at 40?When do we act like we’re young, wanting to live our lives, lost?
These times of crisis should not frighten us, although we know that they can be frightening, sometimes they are very necessary so that we can continue to build our own self, our own identity.
These can be difficult and unstable periods that can last a long time, but when they’re done, we’re reborn with a much stronger identity.
As we have said, crises are necessary to continue building our own identity.
It is time to change and if we are not prepared to face it, we could end up rebelling in different ways, the mood swings and the great emotional instability that one ends up denouncing.
“Aren’t we alive without a sense of identity?
? E. H. Erikson?
This fleeting period of instability and disorganization may appear not only in the best-known stages, which we have already discussed, but at many other times. For example, in the face of the death of a loved one, the loss of a job or a divorce.
These situations we live in force us to look at ourselves and figure out how to deal with them in the best way.
These are critical but necessary moments that will help us build a much stronger identity.