One should not disapprove of the freedom to be oneself, to be different from others, to be happy with or without a partner, to have a strong personality, to do from time to time healthy and crazy things as a reflection of the joy of living should not be Then, “if being different is a crime, I will wear my wives”.
They say that to face life we need to overcome defensive barriers, but what happens when we have overcome our own fears and insecurities, and others insist on putting ourselves in barriers?, which allows us to be free and authentic, implies being strong psychologically and emotionally so as not to be permeable to the pins around us.
- Yves Pélicer.
- Physician and psychiatrist at Necker Hospital in Paris.
- Is known for offering the public really simple psychiatric books to understand and very didactic.
- His approach always defends the same principle: psychology must regain the dignity of being unique and different.
- Human beings It is only when we allow ourselves and others to be what we really want to be that we will find happiness.
So, being different, in a world where the model of women is almost always so homogeneous and restrictive, is certainly a personal challenge.
Most psychological approaches teach us the value and need to always be “ourselves. “But we need to refine the idea a little more. Soistome?Does not include temporary or accidental features. So if my partner has left me, it doesn’t mean I’m someone who doesn’t deserve to be loved if I’m out of work, there’s no way I’m a “failure. “
Self-ception does not concern such facts. Nor does it mean, much less, accepting what others say, think and expect from us. To be yourself is to make a beautiful fabric with our identity and our essence to dress every day. Be true to each of its nuances, its strengths and seek, in turn, to improve as the days progress.
However, this process of incorporation and self-construction also goes on to sit back and spend time on a goal: to really know who we are. Far from being the classic philosophical question, there is a fundamental aspect behind it.
Knowing who we are in turn is about figuring out if the life we lead is in tune with our own identity, if I’m a positive, restless, dreamy person, I can’t be by the side of someone who just throws my dreams to the ground.
Sometimes, when you realize who you are, do you realize that nothing around you has to do with your essence?
Being different, in a society where most women are supposed to be the same, it’s not easy, we’ve already reported that at first. Leaving aside the shadow of patriarchy that we already know, in most scenarios characterized by modernity, another type of reality begins to be defined.
Today’s woman is forced to adapt to a unique size in all areas of her life: perfection. She is expected to win a professional triumph, but now is the time to be a mother. But not just any mother, but one? Great mother able to combine work, thrive with home, with partner, family, friends and, in addition, maintain a perfect body.
Not to mention, of course, that you should worry about educating equally perfect children who can read and write at the age of five.
All of this can be positive, no doubt. And there will be women who will realize all this. But what’s behind all this is also a “superdemanda”: besides the implicit rule that we are all the same. The mother without a partner is always named. The woman who is happy with her extra kilos is criticized for her negligence, for not taking care of hemselves, those who triumph professionally and do not want to live motherhood are also seen with strangeness, if she lives in motherhood and breastfeeds in public. , this is also reported.
To be different, in fact, is to have the courage to be normal, because normality is precisely to be oneself in each of our actions and decisions, what will never be normal is to get carried away by the stratagems of others, by stereotypes and by what others establish as expected, in their desire to control the lives of others.
Being fortunately imperfect in a world that yearns for false perfection is certainly the healthiest thing, because there is nothing better than enjoying every day the freedom to be yourself without fear, to break every chain that comes to meet us and tries to handcuff us. .