If you don’t call me or if you can’t stay with me, I think you’re busy, if you don’t tell me you love me, I think you’re afraid to commit. Kiss me, I think you’re sad, and if you don’t lie to me I think you’re tired, without realizing that what I have to think is that I don’t feel your love, because it doesn’t exist. .
When love is not felt, when there is no mutual interest it is because it is a love that does not exist and is not for you, it is very difficult to be realistic in that, but it is absolutely necessary if we want to have. someone on our side to make us happy.
Keep a love that gives you answers, not trouble. Safety and not fear. Trust and more doubt, Paulo Coelho?
Sometimes we want someone of all our will; we cannot suppress this desire to embrace this person, to possess it, to make it our own, but something is missing. At other times we feel great affection and friendship for someone, but we don’t want them, we don’t feel that strong sexual impulse of desire and maybe, at other times, we feel very close to someone else, so much so that we know how it feels, but there is no desire, even if there may be friendship.
Love is complicated because not only must all the elements that make up it emerge, but they must also exist at the same time, and for both people in the relationship. We all love someone who doesn’t love us, we love someone who doesn’t love us, but there’s no need to suffer, love doesn’t suffer. Full love has three basic elements:
Eros is the sexual desire, the manifestation of possession. At this point, the most important thing is ourselves, it is a totally selfish stage that is expressed in phrases such as: “You are mine”, “I only want you for me”. But Eros, in itself, is not enough. He is always in an eternal situation where something is missing, but if we know how to treat it properly, it can move us to the next loving element.
Philia takes care of the friendship of the couple in which he?I still have a preference, because friendship can be understood as a way to love oneself for friends. During this time, sexual desire has worsened and risen over the years. Hopefully, Philia strengthens over time.
Agape is delicacy, tenderness. It is not sexual desire that goes through everything, which seems that everything can, that it is not possible to contain; it is love that allows us to feel what the person we love feels, to feel their joy, their pain.
All three elements are fundamental in any relationship. If they do not happen at the same time, the relationship does not work, something will always be missed and sooner or later one or both people involved will suffer, there is no love, there are three loves and everyone must come to the same thing. Time.
“If you want to understand a person, don’t listen to their words, observe their behavior. “
? Albert Einstein-
Love must be felt on your skin, in your heart, will you feel it when the other person wants you to show it, when it steals kisses, when it comes to showing you their affection, when you call to know how you are, when you squeeze hard if you feel bad?
Someone who loves you will do everything they can to see you, spend time with you, do things with you, have fun with you. A love you feel is solidarity because the two are present in difficult times, no one believes in each other or the relationship, they fight together for common goals.
It is not about belonging to another, of making our “I” disappear to become the other, it is about participating in a relationship in which we are ourselves outside and within the relationship, with respect and honesty, sharing taking advantage.
And if you don’t feel love, if you don’t love it, it’s best for this relationship to end, because it doesn’t add you to anything, because it doesn’t make you happy, because you deserve to be loved as you are, making you feel desire, friendship and tenderness.
“If they don’t like you, don’t beg and kneel. Love is not asked or asked, it simply happens. If not, do you go out with dignity and look for something else?
? Walter Riso?