Love is not immune to everything, it is not MMA and it is very harmful to create this idea and believe in it. In the name of love, we often endure unpleasant circumstances and get stuck in relationships far removed from the feeling of love.
The fear of loneliness, the change of life or the appearance of subsequent regrets leads us to maintain relationships that no longer bring us anything, that are finished and that we do not even notice, and that bring us more problems and bitterness than joys.
- Sometimes we think that ‘this is a phase’.
- That it will be fleeting or that the person will change behavior.
- But most of the time nothing happens.
- Because if there is no love.
- If you do not feel love in Body and Soul.
- Even if it is said?the relationship is dead and it is time to make decisions to improve life even if there are fears that limit us.
“I don’t care if you don’t like me well and every day better. -Walter laughs
Hyper-romanticism has created very harmful and meaningless ideas in society about love and romantic relationships, they sold us, through songs, films and poems, that only love gives meaning to our lives, that if it is true it will be forever, that out of love we must endure everything, etc. This is not only detrimental to our emotional well-being, but it is also totally false.
Love is not forever, it is scientifically proven and this happens naturally, love does not give meaning to anyone’s life, the vital meaning does not come from things from outside of us, but from within, from the subject himself with his interpretation of the world and his capacity for appreciation and pleasure. Obviously, we have nothing to endure for love either.
Tolerating certain things in a relationship is normal and healthy, as we know no one is perfect and others also tolerate many things in us, just as we have to tolerate certain things in others.
The problem arises when we endure certain things that go against our identity, our values and even our rights, or simply when we discover that the other person is not really dedicated to us, does not support us, does not care for us, only cares about their own life.
Of course, it is the right of the person to decide and live his life as he sees fit, but when that decision excludes you, the relationship ends and can no longer be called love.
Of course, each person loves in a different way, some people are much more affectionate and expressive than others, but there are details that are indispensable, there can be no disrespect, violation of our personal rights, that try to manipulate us or make us change the way we think, feel or live. These things are non-negotiable. If the other person loves you the way you are and has chosen you simply because you are, there’s no point in wanting to change, hurt or manipulate you.
With these reflections, it is possible to think about your current relationship and observe yourself from the outside: do you smile a lot, do you spend your days angry?Arguing and sad Do you feel more comfortable with others than with your love?Be honest with yourself and answer all these questions.
If you realize or conclude that love has not manifested itself for a long time, that love is no longer present, but you have fears that prevent you from taking a new course, it is useful that you think about it. rationally and pragmatically and take into account the following tips: