If the door doesn’t open, it’s just not the right door, let alone the road. However, on some occasions, we invest a lot of time and effort in finding the keys to open a door that can never be opened. without a door. Because there are impossible destinations, people who don’t fit our locks and roads that it’s best not to go through.
It is true, however, that none of us realize from the very first moment of our personal destiny. It must also be said that it is not wrong to get lost from time to time, opening doors that close soon is good to gain experience, to know. who is and who is not part of what investment is worth. In these cases, we gain experience and must go without fear, but with balance and correct attitude.
- When you close a door that has given us happiness.
- You usually open another one.
- But you can’t always see it right away.
- Because you end up sorry for a long time lamenting the door that can no longer be opened.
- And that’s why you don’t.
- I don’t have the key anymore.
- What’s the point?.
Psychologists and sociologists have long wondered what drives us to choose one path and not another, it is customary to say that our choices define us very well, but in reality, there are still many mechanisms that make us go in one direction and not in another. we invite you to think about it.
The popular voice always tells us that when one door closes, another opens. We also often hear another phrase that says that happiness is like butterflies, if we chase it, it escapes us. If we remain silent, it comes to us, now, if we took these words to the letter, we would conclude that opportunities appear alone, as if by art or magic.
When a door is closed we usually spend a lot of time lamenting the impossibility of following that path, no one reacts so quickly to see another exit, another option that could be better, a better solution. On the other hand, and as for example, it is worth knowing an interesting book “The Art of Choice”, by the psychologist Sheena Iyengar, which in the Portuguese translation is called “The Art of Choosing”.
Dr. Ivengar is blind. When she arrived in Canada from India, she learned that her family, according to her culture, would decide who to marry at the right time, her blindness gave her the idea that she could not leave this circle, from this personal prison. throughout his years in college, he realized that the minds of others have no right to choose for us, whatever it is. The doors that others close to us are also walls that we can and must tear down.
Currently, Sheena Iyengar is a great reference in the psychology of personal choices.
Perhaps at some point in our life cycle we do not make the best decisions, or it can even happen over a long period of time, long enough to make us believe that this is what we have forever, but we must not forget that behind closed doors, emptiness and sadness constantly burn. Maybe we’re talking about a relationship, a job or a friendship that didn’t end very well.
Fate is not something we must see, the destiny that we must create ourselves, with determination and courage, opening the most appropriate doors.
Now that we know that the doors we choose do not always open immediately, let’s talk about the doors of relief with which we can find a new path to true happiness, is it worth thinking about these questions to understand that life, in reality , Is it a labyrinth of doors through which we can walk, cross, enjoy, learn and without a doubt? To close.
No path chosen during his existential journey was in vain, far from repenting of having walked through a door, having maintained, for example, a relationship, having started a project and not finishing it, simply because we have frustrations. of joys, we must assume everything lived as learning opportunities, because every scar teaches, and every false path also implies an invitation to start over.