Do we see the world as it is or how we feel it?This question is very important, but at the same time, answering it is very difficult. Because when you’re okay, everything seems to go stern wind; but if one day we are sad, the world seems to be against us. At the end of the day, reality drives us to make an effort. If things go wrong, don’t get carried away.
We know that it is all over, that even the most complicated circumstance ends, that even the worst of storms hides the sun behind its clouds, however, when we immerse ourselves in this negative situation, it seems that everything falls on us.
- Unknowingly.
- We become very negative people.
- Thinking that there is no way out and that it is all over.
- We cannot look forward and let ourselves be carried away by our feelings.
- Abandon ourselves and let the wind against us lose much more than we would have lost in case of opposition.
Don’t get carried away with these negative emotional reactions resulting from disastrous situations, if you do, you won’t be able to see or find the solution.
It is inevitable to feel negative emotions, just as it is inevitable to have to face events and circumstances that stand in the way of our desires, these emotions play a role, focusing on what is happening to us, making us think about the circumstances and find a solution for them. However, its adaptive function can be buried when emotion takes control of our actions and thoughts.
That’s when our thinking is filled with defeatism, lowering our arms and abandoning behaviors that try to balance the negative trend we’re going through: minimizing loss, in those cases instead of retaining the information that emotion is trying to convey to us, we let it become an insidious speaker, reducing our mood and thereby our strengths.
So if you find yourself in a situation like this, don’t get carried away with your negative emotions, don’t even try to fight them: they’ll never be your enemy if you give them the right treatment, just extract your information and energy. Accept that they are now part of you, but do not allow them to go viral, contaminating every thought and behavior.
No matter how complex the situation, there’s always a way out. So, don’t get carried away with how you feel now. If you do, a dense fog will obscure your perspective.
Yes, at that moment you feel very bad. Your partner left you and you don’t think you’ll find anyone else. You’ve been kicked out of work and you think it was the drop that filled the glass. You’ve been disappointed and you think you should start distrusting everyone. this does not help you, limits and prolongs the suffering and pain with which you have taken your hand.
Although we are oppressed and feel that there is no hope possible because of the clouds that exist in our minds, it is necessary to make an effort to move emotionally away from the situation lived, we see nothing clear, so why not?Are you running away a little?
This will help us see more clearly what is going on, we will acquire a new perspective that will give us useful information to get out of where we are trapped.
Now, how do you create an emotional distance? We can start by thinking about a situation in the past where we have similar feelings, have we been able to overcome it?In addition, over time, we have put into perspective the importance we attach to all the adversities we have been through.
“The things of life run their course, but don’t get carried away by your destiny. -Gabriela Mistral-
This will allow us to realize that this situation is the same, it just changed the content, but in reality we’re going to get out of it, it can also help us talk to other people and pay attention to how they experience what we put in your place will help us see our situation from a different perspective.
Think that even if you don’t think you have the power to change anything that happens, that doesn’t mean you have to get carried away, sometimes you need to swim against the current. Especially at times when emotions cloud your vision so much that you may end up suffering from severe depression, so don’t get carried away by what you know you’ll be able to see in the future from a much less dramatic point of view.