At some point this strategy, resource or solution that you now apply to this problem or difficulty has helped you to get good results, at that time when you were lost, repentant and almost helpless to move on, came out of nowhere, put it into practice and worked, so you have decided to use it again in the face of this difficulty, but now it seems that the results are not so successful.
It is true that many problems can be solved with the same strategies that have already worked for you, but there are other cases where this option will only complicate things, so repeating the procedure that has already taken us out of a complicated situation can be a smart way to act.
- However.
- It’s important to always stop in time to find an alternative when you find that the old one isn’t working.
- So in this article we offer you a different view so you can observe your problems.
- You decide if I want to keep doing the same thing or trying different things.
- Let’s think about it.
No one understands a better problem than the one who lives it, the person who has a problem is the one who has the most informed about it, since it is usually the person who has lived the longest with this difficulty or discomfort, even the one who has unconsciously kept the situation through his attempts at ineffective solutions, with the aim of eliminating the experience or unpleasant results as soon as possible.
Are we sometimes stuck,in the past, attempts at solutions, which may have had an effect once in other situations, even if they think that in similar situations, they are not as successful. The thing is, we don’t realize it and we’re stuck in this situation.
We do this by systematically repeating what we think may be effective, but it ends up being useless in solving the problem in its current form. We are immersed in a vicious circle difficult to break.
Thus, there are cases where problems begin when an ineffective solution is repeated over time and, far from finding the solution, what happens is that the problem and unsatisfactory results continue.
I suggest you look at the problem as if you were in a romantic relationship, when there are difficulties or discussions, what do you usually do to achieve different results: you continue to do the same or are trying to reach an agreement or negotiation?With your partner? The most common choice is usually the last, but what does this pact usually entail?Any changes?
That way, if you stop for a moment and think about what’s going on, you’ll be able to identify what you’ve been trying for so long and that, despite that, it’s stuck with nothing, so instead of continuing to do so, you can change or reject that attitude.
Try to relate to your problem. I mean the observation and analysis of how you act, you will often find yourself trapped in the same hole created by doing the same thing over and over again, for example, if you have a problem and always complain about it, do it. Don’t you think there are several alternatives instead of always focusing on the same thing?
If you always do the same thing, don’t expect different results, are you walking, wouldn’t it be better to choose to do something different?Or do you think just complaining that things aren’t what the situation should be like will magically change?When you make a cake and you love it, will you keep putting it at the same temperature next time?
If the strategies you’re applying don’t work for you, look for strategies that do. Do something different and see what happens! Make no mistake: sometimes doing the same thing doesn’t bring about the change we want, but it turns what we thought was the solution to the real problem.
For example, when we can’t sleep and, instead of relaxing, focus our attention on the screams of sleep to come, we do exactly the opposite of what’s recommended: relax and distract our minds with stimuli that don’t trigger our nervousness. System. So, if we apply this solution repeatedly, we will end up scaring sleep for the rest of the night: exactly the opposite of what we wanted.
This also happens when we anticipate a state of anxiety, the only steps we take to avoid it make it appear gradually, because we are more dependent on our physiological reactions.
Even in romantic relationships, it’s more common than you think: she wants to know her partner’s opinion, but she doesn’t ask her why she wants it to be her initiative, and he says nothing because she thinks she doesn’t. Both think they have adopted the most appropriate response to what happened, but all they do is increase the level of tension, while creating a much bigger problem.
As already said, doesn’t the same thing always lead to different results?Open other doors, discover other possibilities and other points of view, be more aware, try your luck, get familiar with the sensations you feel.
As Von Foerster would say, “If you want to see, learn to act. “If you expect something different, do something different and see what happens. Only you are the engine of your experience, the owner of your destiny and the captain of your soul.