If you don’t like someone, if that person is nasty, you have no relationship with them if you want, you leave if that’s what you want, you’re not here to satisfy anyone, or to tolerate the intolerable, always choose a quiet place. distance rather than false hypocrisy.
Experts in interpersonal psychology (responsible for studying people’s relationships with their closest social circles) say that, on average, of all the people we meet in a day, at least 10% would not be to our liking if we met them. : they would not fit into our personal letters or the riddles of our lives.
- In the same way that throughout our day we perform small personal hygiene routines?To maintain health and have a good image.
- We must also start practicing what is called “mental hygiene”.
- One of his first postulates is as simple as it is essential: don’t try to love everyone.
- It’s a source of really useless suffering.
However, not loving does not mean that we must react firmly or aggressively in the delimitation of a territory. In the end, coexistence should not be so complicated, it is based solely on ‘being’ and ‘whatever’. Don’t do to me what you wouldn’t like to be done to. “
We must be skilled architects of this courteous and constructive sincerity where no one is hurt, where we never resort to the false hypocrisy we see every day in our nearest circles.
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Loving or not loving certain people on certain occasions involves certain precautions, this is due to the lack of a meaningful connection, since there is no specific emotional obligation towards this individual, however, the most complex thing happens when we realize that we do not like or diss like it. adapt to relevant figures that come very close.
There are vital moments as bitter as they are complex, imagine a teenager or young man who has just entered adulthood, who is fully aware that his way of being, his thoughts and his values do not correspond to those of his parents. It’s also painful to see that we don’t love someone who attracts us. What do we need? Generate complicity, attraction, intimacy.
If that is the case today that we are experiencing these kinds of situations, we must focus on them as follows.
Another aspect to keep in mind is the constant search for approval that many people need to make them feel like they are “really worth something. “Never get carried away by such a dangerous current. The words of others don’t define you, which defines you. it’s your self-esteem.
So, remember, it’s not in our hands and it’s not our obligation to love everyone by force, if someone doesn’t respect you for who you are, it’s because they don’t love you the way you deserve.
There are hypocrites camouflaged by best friends, there are false loves that sail in bitter oceans pushed by hypocritical winds, there are also parents who sell themselves as good educators, when in reality they do not know the needs of their children.
The subtle fabric of false hypocrisy is present in many of our nearest circles, and we are even able to identify and tolerate it, surely there is someone by your side who tells you every day how pleasant you are, how much he loves you. and how wonderful you are. ” You’re doing everything right!”says, full of a certain lie, smelling of unpleasant hypocrisy.
Don’t do that, don’t allow these behaviors. In the short term, they are suffocating and destructive in the long run. In fact, hypocrites derive from “hypocrisy,” which means pretending, acting, or talking in masks. However, and as is to be considered, Noam Chomsky, linguist and social analyst, has stated that hypocrisy is in fact one of the worst evils in our society.
Taken or applied to more complex areas, it is able to promote injustices such as inequality, war and all kinds of violations of this perverse attitude of lying, that is not enough. We must break this habit and take off our masks to live more integrity, with more respect.
If you don’t like something or if you find something unfair, you don’t have to bend down and give in because everyone expects you to. If you don’t like someone, stay away, go if you want. like, but abandon this dance of lies. May they not bring you clouds of hypocrisy when you clearly defend worthy and respectful hearts.