For many people love is nothing more than a game, a pleasure where the feelings that the other person may have are not taken into account, all in the manipulation that will lead to the drift to the relationship, it is impossible for this situation to continue. by far. The person who plays with love sooner or later burns himself. This is the reality of superficial relationships.
? Are liquid relationships still there? -Jennifer Delgado-
- Perhaps it is the fear of formal relations that leads us to instability.
- Even “trying” we couldn’t form a solid bond.
- This behavior leads to the end of many relationships long before they begin.
- Therefore.
- It is very important not to fall for certain errors.
It’s true that labels frame and limit, but when two people want to see each other and share certain moments in their lives, you have to talk and name what’s going on between them. It won’t make sense and you’ll both feel lost, are we boyfriends?Friends with rights?
It’s not fair to let attitudes speak for themselves, the other needs to know if you’re free and you can see yourself with someone else or, on the contrary, you’re entering into a serious and formal relationship, maybe one of us doesn’t agree, so sinking the relationship into a lie or leaving the situation in the air isn’t right.
This happens in more than one situation, indicating a clear fear of commitment and labels, which can scare one of the partners, but if you talk about the relationship expectations and false hopes can arise that can lead to much more serious problems, such as anxiety.
People have feelings and we can’t treat them as if they were objects, they’re not there to meet our needs when we want, unless it’s been said before, this situation has a very clear name and with which you can feel identified: use .
“All the miseries of men have simply not spoken clearly. -Albert Camus-
None of us like to be used by other people. Have you ever ignored anyone until you needed it?This type of relationship eventually causes harm, self-esteem and feelings of inferiority. To regard a person as a mere instrument is to strip them of his nature, and to assign to him another that is not real: neither in life nor in love.
Many people, with low self-esteem or emotional dependence, give in to a relationship like this, but you have to love yourself a little more. You don’t deserve to be used, you deserve to be loved. Remember, you’re not an object, you’re a person. Don’t let him get in your way.
When relationships between friends became popular, many wanted to participate in the new fashion, but is that really the kind of relationship you wanted to have?Maybe a lot of people got involved in this kind of relationship not because they wanted to, but as a way to do it. to look at the classical thought that characterized love as an eternal feeling, or at least until reality said otherwise.
In a relationship without references, a game that initially turns on the flames will continue, but this over time turns them off. A seemingly innocent game in which we send a message, but then it takes time to respond. This is done on purpose, to keep the mystery and for the other person to care or care more about us.
“The very idea of relationship remains fraught with vague threats and dark premonitions: it conveys both the pleasures of the union and the horrors of the fence. Maybe that’s why people talk more about relationships, not couples. -Zygmunt Bauman-
The point is that today relationships have become fragile, either because the way we understand love has changed or because we destroyed the old one but we didn’t know how to create a new one instead.
We criticize the lack of communication of couples, but now, to defend the absence of “tags”, we feel confused and without reference points. We can know what we don’t want, but not exactly what we want or what we’re willing to negotiate to come to an agreement.
In the end, we have changed the classic definitions of vacuum, a void that is not ballad because it is a source of confusion and emotional pain, and it is something that we must rething as a society and as individuals.