I’m by your side, I’m your friend, your partner, your family, the person who loves you, or I’m a person you don’t know but who’s willing to help you, sometimes we can distance ourselves or we may not know each other, but the truth is that there’s a bond that binds us, if you fall I’ll lift you up, help you walk and if you can’t walk I’ll sit next to you.
I understand, I am deep in your skin, in your thoughts, I know who you are and I do not reveal your secrets, you know me and protect me, we feel the connection of our souls, we share a life, we smile just by looking at us we fall and rise.
- If I see you cry.
- I say I’m sorry and I leave.
- I don’t give you love.
- If I pay for my children’s education but I ignore them.
- I don’t give them love.
- If I see my spouse in trouble and buy him a car.
- I don’t give him love.
“Of all the varieties of virtues, generosity is the most valued. “
-Aristotle-
Giving love means so much more. To help someone is to put themselves in their place, to feel their pain, their pain, their sadness like theirs, and to make them understand that you are there, that you will prevent them from falling and that if it falls you will. Up. Help to the other must come from an altruistic and reflective gesture towards the other and not towards oneself.
But love is not only given to those we know, we can give it to other strangers who need it, it is love as an extended hand in the form of help, support.
Helping others benefits not only the people we support, but also ourselves in many ways and makes us evolve as people. Here are some of the benefits of helping others.
According to a study published in the journal Health Psychology, people who volunteer live longer than they don’t, as long as the reason they act is to help others and not for “personal satisfaction. “
Sara Konrath and several of her colleagues at the University of Michigan (USA) came to this conclusion after studying about 10,000 people of different ages and showing that over a period of four years, the chances of survival were 3% highest among those who volunteered.
Konrath’s scientific basis for explaining the increase in longevity was that by caring about others, our body’s responses to stress are deactivated and we release hormones like oxytocin that restore normal physiological function.
Helping others, as we said earlier, must be understood in a broad sense, that is, we should not limit ourselves to the people we know, but to the fact that we can reach other people we do not know and who need help.
“He who makes the other suffer hurts himself. He who helps others helps himself.
-Leon Tolstoy-
When we do a leisure activity, we feel a well-being that remains in our body and mind for a while, but when we do an activity to help others, mental well-being extends over time, because the joy and happiness gratitude that the other person will convey to us is something that remains in memory.
When we help someone else and feel their appreciation, the opinion we have of ourselves, increases our self-esteem, we feel useful, we feel that we have done something that has value.
Helping others generates positive feelings of joy and happiness, it gives the impression that the glass is half full and not half empty. Being charitable makes you a more optimistic person. The positive thoughts that are generated when we help someone are the source of our sense of happiness.
That’s why helping others, getting closer, also helps us be better people, see the world from another angle, and be happier.
“Sometimes we think what we do is just a drop at sea, but the sea would be less if a drop was missing.
-Mother Teresa of Calcutta-