How many people did you give your life to because you were tired of hearing your excuses and justifications?Think, we can fall once, two, three, up to ten times, but we’ll get up twenty knowing that in the end, we’ve done everything we can for ourselves and our emotional health: letting them go.
We will never fully understand what brings to our lives some people who specialize in transforming our world, letting us live in disappointment, false hopes and unjustified punishments.
- It is often said that excuses are typical of mediocre people.
- Or even more so.
- Of people who are skilled craftsmans of lies or manipulation.
- We do not know for sure.
- Because we do not know how the brain works and the will of those.
- Who use this type of crutch in their daily lives.
What we do know is that the feeling that these kinds of acts occur in us is a disappointment, today in our space we want to think about these kinds of behaviors, understand them, manage them and be able to react, even if it is difficult for us.
Think for a moment about what’s worse for you: an excuse or a lie?In reality, both are part of the same side of the coin: lack of sincerity and bravery. When we apologize or lie, we are not sincere, let alone courageous. .
It is often said that human beings are very adept at making excuses, but there are those who make it a way of life to mask the irresponsibility of acting wholeheartedly with their thoughts and actions, so the excuses are much worse than lying.
There are intelligent lies and pious lies, there are even lies that last a lifetime and are never discovered. But apologies and apologies are often used as empty attempts at emotional manipulation. Let’s look at an example.
Suppose someone who makes a lot of sense to us starts to distance himself and gives us no reason, he simply decides to disappear from our lives, if the emotional bond with this person was very intense, you will have to recompose piece by piece of your life. heart and this package called existence.
But the example doesn’t end there. Before long he returned, and he did so by offering some of the most classic excuses: he needed time to reflect, and when he left us he realized what we meant to him, or claimed that third parties were the cause of this separation. .
You may offer him a new opportunity, which will reopen the doors, but whoever is used to excuses will behave the same way again and that’s when we finally decided to let them go.
What profile, in fact, hides these kinds of people so used to using excuses?
Immature behaviors that use continuous apologies can be modified each time and when they are able to develop the following attitudes:
Whoever walks away for no reason, in fact, does not have the courage and sincerity to explain this truth to him What are the excuses to know that, without pretexts, they are hidden lies?
Throughout our lives we end up with many lies, and we even use excuses on certain occasions, but we will never use them to hide what we really feel and, even less, to hurt someone.
If in your daily life you feel that those who love you are specialists qualified in this type of deception and torture, reflect and analyze what they make you feel.
If you violate your integrity, if the lie is already destroying your heart, practice zero tolerance with excuses. Run away with reasons and not seek your own excuses, because there is no need to live with those who hurt us?this is the real reality.
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