Complaining when something doesn’t go the way you want it is normal, but when the complaint is always for the same reason, you’re the one who fails, if something goes wrong and you keep doing it the same way it’s going to still go wrong. If we want to change our lives, we also need to know how to change our actions.
I will tell the case of a person anonymously, it turns out that he had a group of friends with which he dated frequently, but he did not like some of his attitudes, such as when they were dating and arriving late, the fact that they were not very responsible, and also the habit of canceling their appointments at the last minute, without giving time to plan new things.
- He spoke to me and complained.
- Several times.
- About the same situation.
- And I asked him.
- “Have you thought about meeting other people and making new friends?”He didn’t like me asking him that question.
- Because he said they were good.
- People.
- Who had known them for a long time.
- And I said.
- “You’re right.
- But no wonder they are.
- You never agree with what they do.
- They’re not punctual and.
- When they cancel.
- They don’t tell you well in advance to reorganize you.
- ?.
She cared. On the one hand I wanted to meet new people, but on the other hand I was afraid of the unknown, going back to the beginning, in a way, it is difficult, whether in the world of work, in the sentimental sphere or in friendships?But if we are not satisfied with any situation, it is worth exploring new paths. She kept saying the same thing to me: “Today we were going to explore a city all day, I left home with my backpack ready and running. The way they called me to tell me that something unexpected had happened and that they couldn’t go.
Again I asked her if she was willing to keep giving these people opportunities and added, “How many times are you going to stay disappointed in them?”
He continued to defend his friendships and said he had reason not to give up, but as long as unforeseen events continued to occur, a righteous person would warn in advance not to cause trouble.
After a few years, she finally realized that these friendships were very different from her, that she deserved people who offered her the same thing: integrity, responsibility and speech. Now he has new friendships, but before he made good friends, he went through others. that didn’t work.
Everything in life works like this; you have to go through a process until you find what you really need. Now she used to say, “How could I not have noticed this before?The difference between spending weekends complaining about the frustration these people cause and now enjoying time with different people. It’s amazing!?
She has always expected her friendships to change, but things don’t change on their own. Often, what fails is not the outside, but ourselves, that we are not responsible for situations. We can’t blame others for being who they are. , what we can do is choose whether to stay with them or not. In life, opportunities are endless; If you’re in a place where you’re not comfortable, try to start changing course.
There are many people trapped in jobs that they do not like, friendships that do not bring anything positive, marriages in which there is no love and every day is a pain, starting again involves a lot of work and it requires a lot of willpower, but trying does not cost anything. Remember that if you don’t take the initiative to change, nothing will change on its own. Fate is not written, it is modeled according to our actions. a world of possibilities, enjoy it and don’t settle for what doesn’t make you happy.