We all know people who think they are the only people in the world, for them, no matter what happens, they are always worse than you, they have always suffered more and their lives have been much more difficult. say, “If you increase the view of your belly button, you’ll see that it’s not the center of the universe. “
They lack emotional balance and live in other people’s parasites, using the pen as a weapon of seduction. They do not have a single face, but disguise themselves as the ones that suit them best, to become the navel of the world.
- They are children who try to attract attention and therefore do not hesitate to use the feelings of others.
- They use the extreme emotions of others to overcome their pain.
- From artifices disguised as stories of their own creation.
These stories are often exaggerations of a reality they may have known, but after going through the filter of your belly button, if there’s any resemblance to the original story it’s just coincidence, so with these stories, they try to convince you by appealing to the pain that can awaken in you.
Selfishness, or the art of looking only at the navel, is spending your life speaking in a tone of yourself. Yes, this selfishness is characterized by “And I more”, “Mine is worse”, “Do I just know that the worst things always happen to me?Or “I’m the luckiest person in the world. “
These people complain that they don’t listen to them, that no one understands them, but they are the first to stop listening to talk about their complaints, often this behavior is unconscious, because it is the only way not to feel alone.
In such cases, these are people with low self-esteem who do not know how to communicate their feelings correctly, and they also often lack social skills that allow them to communicate better and, above all, understand and put themselves in Their place.
In other cases, this art of looking at the navel itself is done in a totally deliberate way, in this case they demonstrate its lack of empathy. They are selfish and harmful people, and it is because of this selfishness that they become emotional manipulators.
These emotional manipulators are consciously selfish because they try to take advantage of others by resorting to punishment and have the following identifiable characteristics:
It is very difficult to deal with these types of people and avoid blackmail and confrontation, it is difficult to maintain a peaceful coexistence with these emotional manipulators because I vampire all your resources, while making you feel guilty.
The first thing you should know is that the usefulness of your complaints or stories lies in getting what you want. At first, the complaint may have been filed for a reasonable reason, such as a loss or a very negative experience.
At the time, the person complained and found the support of everyone around him, showed that he was a victim (suffering and painful) and probably had more attention, this attention covered his own emotional needs. Thus, complaints and selfishness have become his way of reporting.
It is therefore a skill that can be corrected like any other learning, but this requires the admission of the selfish, who does so when he speaks only of his feelings and invents stories to attract the attention of others.
What you, as a connoisseur and victim of the selfish person, can do is try to raise awareness of your problem so that, if you wish, you can ask for help. To do this, it uses communication strategies such as the sandwich technique. To be able to help.
The technique of the sandwich is to make a review and make it receive well. Start by scoring a person’s positive quality, then mention what they think could be improved and end with a few positive words about the cause of the complaint.
In this case it could be: “I understand that what’s happening to you is very wrong, even if you’re a very strong person, but I was talking to you about what worries me and I’d like you to listen to me like I do with you, why does it usually help me a lot?
In this way, you will be able to express your discomfort and, at the same time, not allow this emotional vampire to absorb you into your circle of selfishness, because even if we want to tell you to leave your navel with your eyes, so that you can see. that this is not the center of the universe, it is not the most appropriate way to approach people. If we want to get a good deal, we have to give it first, no matter who gets it.