We spent a lot of time looking for that special, magical and dynamic person who will change our lives, we dream it, we want it as if waiting for the comfort of its feathers, until in the end we looked for it in the mirror and realized that that person has always been there: we are ourselves.
We could safely say that many of us are certain rational scholars, we are doctors in the school of a thousand knowledge and a thousand skills, but no one has introduced us to true control of life: self-knowledge, self-esteem and emotions. Intelligence.
“He who dominates others may seem strong: but the one who knows himself is powerful. -Lao Tze-
Incredibly, there are those who live the life of an eternal emotional pilgrimage, they look for in others what they do not find in themselves, because those who have not yet discovered all their inner beauty expect others to do so. Learned to sustain themselves, they live like an eternal wanderer demanding attention and crumbs of affection that impoverish them even more.
We must understand that someone will not always erase our own fears, fill our gaps and end our insecurities, turn us into courageous people. No heroes expected. We must create heroes, for this we must show ourselves as a self-sufficient being, as people worthy and able to create their own paths.
Something like this can only be achieved in a very real way: discover yourself, we invite you to try it as follows.
Carl Rogers used to say that human beings are like isolated islands, sometimes far from investing our time in discovering the richness of these personal scenarios, accepting their variety and their uniqueness, we hide, only when the person can accept himself as he is, can he build strong and solid bridges to other islands, to other people.
To achieve this, nothing better than to initiate four types of dialogue with this precious being that lives in our own mirror and which we do not always take into account.
“I am alone and there is no one in the mirror. -Jorge Luis Borges-
To foster this reunion with ourselves, we will begin with rational dialogue.
If rational dialogue acts as a crafty advocate pulling these unpleasant realities out of our mirror, the time has come to acknowledge the emotions we feel, we are aware of many disappointments, deep fears, and bitter frustrations.
A kind dialogue greets us with phrases such as
The beautiful person in our own mirror already knows that there are things that need to change, that there are personal aspects that need to be improved, yet we understand that there are things and people that bring us more sadness than happiness. our emotions and the explosion that follows allow us to see things now more clearly and calmly.
After this rational and emotional dawn, an important moment has come, so what is the next step in this self-discoveration?Remember our own values.
Take a few minutes to complete this exercise by completing each column. This can be very revitalizing and will promote self-affirmation.
At this point, the beautiful person in our own mirror has already emerged from darkness and reveals himself before us, now is the time to take her out of this dimension and embrace her and melt into the same being. It’s the same brave, determined entity.
In conclusion, this special person who lives in our own mirrors wants to be visible, have a voice and the freedom to show the world what he is capable of, believe it or not, can accomplish many things. In fact, can it change our own lives?
Images courtesy of Carlee Senior, Brent Hollynd Studio.