The phrase: if you want, you suffer. If you don’t like it, do you get sick?It is one of the most popular of sigmund Freud. Is it included in your work? Introduction to narcissism,? And it’s currently circulating on social media. A lot of people think its meaning is romantic, but in fact it’s the result of a whole theory on the subject.
On several occasions, many questions have been raised about Sigmund Freud and psychoanalysis. The most frequent criticism states that it is a “insensitive” theoretical body. However, most of Freud’s theories influenced all humanities, including?Difficult, like psychiatry.
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- The truth is that few people discuss the importance of love in the development of the human being.
- From the moment we open our eyes to the world we suffer from a lack: the lack of the other.
- There is no way to survive or grow if there is no other way to make it possible.
In other words, it means that if there is not a minimum of love at the beginning of our lives, it becomes unattainable. Someone has to meet our needs or we’ll die.
The human being is always and forever a needy, needy being, we live with a void that cannot be filled, even if sometimes we come to believe that this is not the case, this is because, forever and forever, we are condemned to a loneliness without salvation. As much as we can establish intimate and loving bonds, the reality is that we are born, live and die essentially alone.
In love are at stake many forms of suffering, ranging from loving and not being loved, to discovering that love does not solve everything. One way or another, there is no way to love without suffering, why should it be?Why doesn’t love lead to happiness?
Is falling in love something like that, wonderful anger, where the meanings of the world change temporarily. It is very obsessive, but sometimes it gives off a vitality that is difficult to achieve through other experiences. Falling in love is perverse and sometimes delicious. He is very well represented in Gabriel García Márquez’s “Love in the Age of Cholera”, where he states that “the symptoms of love are very similar to those of cholera”.
Yes, falling in love is suffering pleasure. Suffer because this person takes time to arrive, feels that you are dying when you think everything can end, you know that you could go to hell with that person who stole your heart, the thrill of loving and being loved alternates with the fear of losing the one you love. Enthusiasm for the meeting, with treacherous doubts about disagreements.
Once this vibrant phase of passion is over, you start to live a kind of mourning. Something? He’s gone, anything? It’s not like it used to be. You know you still love this person, but also that this love has limits. Then you suffer because you have to say goodbye to the illusion of this romantic and eternal love.
When a person struggles to establish loving relationships with others, they end up becoming very emotionally and mentally vulnerable. Hermetism, obsessive lockdown, difficulty communicating to others what you feel or think are signs that things are not going in the right direction.
He is getting sick. If only what has to do with yourself is important and there are great difficulties in recognizing what affects others, there are many reasons to believe that you are trapped in your own narcissism, but this is not a morally or ethically reprehensible question. of a disturbing sign, which indicates that the person has become or is going to become ill.
When it comes to ingenuity, the question of time remains very important, we all have steps in which we become reluctant to contact others or steps in which we must be alone with ourselves, but problems arise when it becomes a relatively permanent model. The main thing is that if the face is narcissistic, the other side is a strong detachment from life and an inclination towards all that death represents.
It is as if someone gets tired of himself, that excessive focus on oneself, sooner or later, translates into anguish, obsession, also translates into an unproductive and meaningless life, or a scheme where others are just instruments, things that serve our goals. In these circumstances, the possibility of achieving something we all seek is further from us: inner peace.