Under expressions like? If you’re not jealous, if you don’t really like ?,?If you really love me, you don’t need to go out or be with someone else?Does loving mean guessing what the other wants and needs?abusive to maintain a romantic love that is, for the most part, fictional.
Love, like almost everything in life, is learned. And sometimes we learn the wrong way. The idea of romantic and illusory love that is spreading today does not serve personal relationships. The values found in healthy romantic relationships are totally different from the values of passionate love based on all or nothing.
- Love is one of the most powerful feelings that exist.
- And each gives its own characteristics and certain ideas that are often not entirely accurate.
- The vast majority of relationship problems often stem from romantic demands about love and the couple who are far removed from reality.
- Distorted ideas typical of passionate love can engage even complementary couples.
Manipulation occurs when a person exercises control over another person’s behavior by turning them into a puppet, using persuasive techniques that seek to nullify or condition the ability of others to judge. Mental manipulation can be a particular form of selfishness.
Manipulators often use their partners without remorse, with a narcissistic goal of power, or to achieve their goals, they can rely on lies or seduction, or even on shame by threat or force to destabilize the victim. others is aimed at their own benefit. If the manipulator is good, the manipulated person will not realize that he falls in love with his game.
People most likely to be manipulated by their respective partners often have low self-esteem, feelings of guilt and inferiority, other factors can influence manipulation, such as external situations: loss of family members, layoffs, divorces or loss of employment.
Recognizing manipulative people will save us many problems and frustrations in our daily lives If your partner hates to receive one?No? In response and when you try to resist attempts at persuasion, he does not respond normally or even loses his temper, it is an indication that we are dealing with a person who cannot bear the lack of influence over us.
People who manipulate in a romantic relationship like to show their strengths and skills; they are rarely shy people. They tend to hold others accountable when the results they get are not what they expected, they are people who are not focused on what they can offer or how they can help, live self-centered and do not seem to know the meaning of word reciprocity.
They have always spoken for themselves and have rarely asked without interest how you are or if you need anything. In addition, we will realize that by giving in, in addition to not thanking our actions, they will want more and more. extremely insurgent. Despite this, they try to look exactly the opposite of this, using selfish and dominant attitudes to hide their fears.
The fundamental first step in resolving a manipulation situation is to be aware that we are being manipulated, to realize that we have been manipulated by the person we love, to the point of becoming their puppet, is something that will cause us great emotional discomfort.
There are several solutions that we can find for this type of problems, one would be to end the relationship in the face of the impossibility of changing the behavior of the couple, another could be to change the tendency of requests, teaching the manipulator of the couple to ask for things directly and not indirectly, because they are used to taking us to their country without showing us their letters or their true desires.
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